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The book I've been reading: narcissts and socipaths
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<blockquote data-quote="mrsammler" data-source="post: 430585"><p>"Also true to form, his mother (single mother) was VERY forgiving when he was a little boy. Accountability was not big in his life. And when he was a younger man, he was often unkind to her."</p><p></p><p>This is almost exactly the story of the sociopath in my family, although she wasn't a single mother until he was 13 or so (his father died). I remember her telling me, when he was 11, about teacher after teacher who didn't understand his intelligence, and how she yanked him from school to school to protect him from these "biased" or "insensitive" teachers, even home-schooling him one year, when it was pretty clear to me that the underlying truth was that he was lazy and his teachers were trying to inform his mother of that. And he got away with MURDER at home behaviorally, never being punished or held to account for his misbehavior, so he was already a pretty rotten kid by 10 or 11. At 14 he went full-on ODD and then quickly into CD and was violent toward her, ran a reign of terror in her home, and so on. You could see it all coming years and years beforehand due to how she had raised him. </p><p></p><p>Not all sociopaths are "made," of course--but some are, and this is how it can happen. I think that there has to be an innate inclination as well, though, as his younger brother, raised exactly the same way, is a really fine easy child, a wonderful kids. It's a blend of nature and nurture, I think, except where the "nature" side of things--i.e., innate inclination--is so strong that "nurture" doesn't matter, as in outright psychopaths.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="mrsammler, post: 430585"] "Also true to form, his mother (single mother) was VERY forgiving when he was a little boy. Accountability was not big in his life. And when he was a younger man, he was often unkind to her." This is almost exactly the story of the sociopath in my family, although she wasn't a single mother until he was 13 or so (his father died). I remember her telling me, when he was 11, about teacher after teacher who didn't understand his intelligence, and how she yanked him from school to school to protect him from these "biased" or "insensitive" teachers, even home-schooling him one year, when it was pretty clear to me that the underlying truth was that he was lazy and his teachers were trying to inform his mother of that. And he got away with MURDER at home behaviorally, never being punished or held to account for his misbehavior, so he was already a pretty rotten kid by 10 or 11. At 14 he went full-on ODD and then quickly into CD and was violent toward her, ran a reign of terror in her home, and so on. You could see it all coming years and years beforehand due to how she had raised him. Not all sociopaths are "made," of course--but some are, and this is how it can happen. I think that there has to be an innate inclination as well, though, as his younger brother, raised exactly the same way, is a really fine easy child, a wonderful kids. It's a blend of nature and nurture, I think, except where the "nature" side of things--i.e., innate inclination--is so strong that "nurture" doesn't matter, as in outright psychopaths. [/QUOTE]
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