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The calm after the storm...feels kind of blah
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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 608113" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>Suzir, you are young. Getting older and having an empty nest doesn't mean ya sit in a rocking chair waiting to die. There are a lot of fun and active things to do that don't involve your kids and most kids do not make a habit of hanging around and including the parents in their social lives. They marry and move on. Some move far away.</p><p></p><p>And you do come to like peace and serenity and a lack of slamming doors and fixing problems. Or at least I think many do. Of course, most people do have grandchildren, but they do not always live nearby nor spend a lot of time with us. Usually we can hug them and give them back (not always, as you see on this board).</p><p></p><p>I am not 100% sure, but I think those in this thread are saying that they are so used to chaos that they can't settle down now that they don't have it anymore. In the US, many people live in inner cities that are so wild that there are common gang shootings. I knew a man who got out of that environment eventually by first joining the service (ironic, I know!). But he was always causing a crisis in his marriage because the quiet of his life was unfamiliar to him. They came close to divorce until he got help.</p><p></p><p>I think that being able to finally think about ourselves first, once we hit our middle 50's or so is a gift. We spend so much of our lives ministering to everyone else. Some of us have to learn how to be good to ourselves though <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite1" alt=":)" title="Smile :)" loading="lazy" data-shortname=":)" /> It is foreign to us.</p><p></p><p>To anybody at all who is having trouble adjusting to the empty nest (or the peace and quiet) therapy is again a good answer. It is going to be very odd to me next year when Sonic moves out and Jumper goes to college. I am 60 and will first have a totally empty nest and it will be very strange to me!!!</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 608113, member: 1550"] Suzir, you are young. Getting older and having an empty nest doesn't mean ya sit in a rocking chair waiting to die. There are a lot of fun and active things to do that don't involve your kids and most kids do not make a habit of hanging around and including the parents in their social lives. They marry and move on. Some move far away. And you do come to like peace and serenity and a lack of slamming doors and fixing problems. Or at least I think many do. Of course, most people do have grandchildren, but they do not always live nearby nor spend a lot of time with us. Usually we can hug them and give them back (not always, as you see on this board). I am not 100% sure, but I think those in this thread are saying that they are so used to chaos that they can't settle down now that they don't have it anymore. In the US, many people live in inner cities that are so wild that there are common gang shootings. I knew a man who got out of that environment eventually by first joining the service (ironic, I know!). But he was always causing a crisis in his marriage because the quiet of his life was unfamiliar to him. They came close to divorce until he got help. I think that being able to finally think about ourselves first, once we hit our middle 50's or so is a gift. We spend so much of our lives ministering to everyone else. Some of us have to learn how to be good to ourselves though :) It is foreign to us. To anybody at all who is having trouble adjusting to the empty nest (or the peace and quiet) therapy is again a good answer. It is going to be very odd to me next year when Sonic moves out and Jumper goes to college. I am 60 and will first have a totally empty nest and it will be very strange to me!!! [/QUOTE]
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