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The coming Thanksgiving crisis--home from college
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<blockquote data-quote="DejectedDad" data-source="post: 391974"><p>First, thank you to all who have offered advice. No offense taken, believe me. We've thought and heard it before.</p><p> </p><p>Second, update and info. We don't know what his grades are; in general at his school there aren't many interim grades--you take a final and see what's what. He reported on arriving home last night that he was doing fine at midterm but has done worse since, as the classes are "hard." They are: he is in a challenging engineering curriculum. He has made noises about switching out of engineering but in the next breath talks about getting an MBA after an engineering degree. </p><p> </p><p>I think we'll have to see what happens with this semester. We haven't had a discussion, yet, about not going to one class. But he is more than passing, we think. And reasonably motivated (weird, about half of his "drug friends" are attending competitive national universities all around the US; difference between them and him is that they studied harder in high school and seem to know when (or are able, as opposed to substance dependent him), to stop--so his peer group, in part, is actually a plus, but that's the nature of the super affluent achieving pressure cooker town we live in). </p><p> </p><p>I guess I would not mind if he spent some money on booze in college, or even pot, since I and most of my peers did. Can he keep under control? Just don't know. </p><p> </p><p>He is pretty sick with bronchitis. Whether this is because he is constantly smoking pot or because he is not sleeping or taking care of himself at school is hard to say. He says he quit smoking tobacco a few weeks back because of the coughing. His mom thinks it is all due to pot. I have no idea. </p><p> </p><p>So for today, no massive confrontation or cutting him off. But hey, it is only Wednesday, we have three days for an explosion.</p><p> </p><p>I will report back, and thanks again.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="DejectedDad, post: 391974"] First, thank you to all who have offered advice. No offense taken, believe me. We've thought and heard it before. Second, update and info. We don't know what his grades are; in general at his school there aren't many interim grades--you take a final and see what's what. He reported on arriving home last night that he was doing fine at midterm but has done worse since, as the classes are "hard." They are: he is in a challenging engineering curriculum. He has made noises about switching out of engineering but in the next breath talks about getting an MBA after an engineering degree. I think we'll have to see what happens with this semester. We haven't had a discussion, yet, about not going to one class. But he is more than passing, we think. And reasonably motivated (weird, about half of his "drug friends" are attending competitive national universities all around the US; difference between them and him is that they studied harder in high school and seem to know when (or are able, as opposed to substance dependent him), to stop--so his peer group, in part, is actually a plus, but that's the nature of the super affluent achieving pressure cooker town we live in). I guess I would not mind if he spent some money on booze in college, or even pot, since I and most of my peers did. Can he keep under control? Just don't know. He is pretty sick with bronchitis. Whether this is because he is constantly smoking pot or because he is not sleeping or taking care of himself at school is hard to say. He says he quit smoking tobacco a few weeks back because of the coughing. His mom thinks it is all due to pot. I have no idea. So for today, no massive confrontation or cutting him off. But hey, it is only Wednesday, we have three days for an explosion. I will report back, and thanks again. [/QUOTE]
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