lovemysons
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LOL, no I'm not talking about a new reality TV show...I'm refering to my 21 year old son and his now 32 year old girlfriend.
Truth be told...I don't trust her. It's like she's smiling on the outside while cursing your name on the inside...that's how it feels.
She doesn't seem to want a relationship with me, least not like difficult child's girlfriends in the past. My mom thinks it is that she doesn't NEED to warm up to me. She is the one on the apt lease they have together...she is even paying for oldest difficult child to go to college. My mom also thinks she is "competition" for me.
So far...I don't see any huge red flags as far as the relationship between difficult child and her being what one might call destructive. I do think there is some codependency involved though.
easy child thinks she's very shallow and that the relationship will not last much longer. I disagree with second part and think it's probibly going to drag on, mostly because she gave up so much from her ex husband, monetarily speaking, in order to be with difficult child. And...difficult child is a felon, he couldn't even be on the lease and live in anything decent. Plus, she is sophisticated, worldy, and I think difficult child looks up to her in a way that he didn't with his soon to be ex wife. Yep, as far as I know they are both still married to other people...don't know when they're divorces will get finalized.
Guess I'm just sharing my thoughts with yall and the latest, fact that they're still together.
And...the fact that I just don't Trust Her, can't pinpoint exactly what it is...hmm.
Tammy
Truth be told...I don't trust her. It's like she's smiling on the outside while cursing your name on the inside...that's how it feels.
She doesn't seem to want a relationship with me, least not like difficult child's girlfriends in the past. My mom thinks it is that she doesn't NEED to warm up to me. She is the one on the apt lease they have together...she is even paying for oldest difficult child to go to college. My mom also thinks she is "competition" for me.
So far...I don't see any huge red flags as far as the relationship between difficult child and her being what one might call destructive. I do think there is some codependency involved though.
easy child thinks she's very shallow and that the relationship will not last much longer. I disagree with second part and think it's probibly going to drag on, mostly because she gave up so much from her ex husband, monetarily speaking, in order to be with difficult child. And...difficult child is a felon, he couldn't even be on the lease and live in anything decent. Plus, she is sophisticated, worldy, and I think difficult child looks up to her in a way that he didn't with his soon to be ex wife. Yep, as far as I know they are both still married to other people...don't know when they're divorces will get finalized.
Guess I'm just sharing my thoughts with yall and the latest, fact that they're still together.
And...the fact that I just don't Trust Her, can't pinpoint exactly what it is...hmm.
Tammy