svengandhi
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In a bizarre sort of way, I envy you. I found out my father died when his sister called to tell me she had fallen and broken her hip. I still don't know when or how he died, just that it was some time before the day we were dropping daughter off at college for her freshman year. I found out my mother had died when my H decided to call crazy sister's girlfriend and ask how she was doing. She told him that mom "died Feb 7." It was Feb 6 when he called her - she had been dead for one day less than a year and I had only found out. I don't know how she died, although I had the SS Registry checked to make sure it was true since it wouldn't be beyond my sis to do the Norman Bates thing and try to collect mom's SS checks. I guess she died at the hospital.
I have not cried over either death. I did not sit shiva and I wasn't even thinking clearly enough to take my allotted bereavement days at work.
I envy you having had the type of R with your dad where his impending death actually means something to you and for having the memories of his and your life together to get you through it. I hope your dad is not suffering greatly and that you and your entire family have peace.
I have not cried over either death. I did not sit shiva and I wasn't even thinking clearly enough to take my allotted bereavement days at work.
I envy you having had the type of R with your dad where his impending death actually means something to you and for having the memories of his and your life together to get you through it. I hope your dad is not suffering greatly and that you and your entire family have peace.