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<blockquote data-quote="Deni D" data-source="post: 730586" data-attributes="member: 22840"><p>Thanks LBL and SS.</p><p>LBL And with all of the education my son has received for his condition throughout his life. I feel like it went up in smoke with the first joint of synthetic marajuana.</p><p></p><p>SS I'm sorry my post email content did that to you. </p><p></p><p>A quote by Sam3 on another post:</p><p>“But I think there is power in letting our adult children know, without catastrophizing, that we have wrapped our heads around the possibility that their futures might involve jail, homelessness, and living off the dole, if they don’t beat their addictions and treat their illnesses.</p><p>It takes away the X factor: their belief that they would get another bonus life because “my parents would be too horrified to let that happen to me.” </p><p>So it becomes their informed choice whether they want to see a therapist, meet with a job counselor, take medications — or not.”</p><p></p><p>I'm going to print this out and put it on my refrigerator. I've been accused of "catastrophyizing" often no matter what ridiculous direction I've tried to guide my son from going in. But the thing is I've done it with too much emotion, hence the catastrophyizing. My goal right now is to calm myself down to actually feel the above. That way when my son manages to get around my force field, like he did today when he called from a number I thought was from a business I deal with, I can calmly speak to him as if the ball is in his court and his choices have nothing to do with me. </p><p></p><p>I feel bad that I haven't been able to respond to anyone else's posts in this forum. I've tried but 1) I'm not nearly as eloquent as the posters here 2) I'm in so far over my head I feel like the Avatar I just changed my picture to. I don't trust my judgement. </p><p></p><p>Thanks so much to everyone for all of the support here.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Deni D, post: 730586, member: 22840"] Thanks LBL and SS. LBL And with all of the education my son has received for his condition throughout his life. I feel like it went up in smoke with the first joint of synthetic marajuana. SS I'm sorry my post email content did that to you. A quote by Sam3 on another post: “But I think there is power in letting our adult children know, without catastrophizing, that we have wrapped our heads around the possibility that their futures might involve jail, homelessness, and living off the dole, if they don’t beat their addictions and treat their illnesses. It takes away the X factor: their belief that they would get another bonus life because “my parents would be too horrified to let that happen to me.” So it becomes their informed choice whether they want to see a therapist, meet with a job counselor, take medications — or not.” I'm going to print this out and put it on my refrigerator. I've been accused of "catastrophyizing" often no matter what ridiculous direction I've tried to guide my son from going in. But the thing is I've done it with too much emotion, hence the catastrophyizing. My goal right now is to calm myself down to actually feel the above. That way when my son manages to get around my force field, like he did today when he called from a number I thought was from a business I deal with, I can calmly speak to him as if the ball is in his court and his choices have nothing to do with me. I feel bad that I haven't been able to respond to anyone else's posts in this forum. I've tried but 1) I'm not nearly as eloquent as the posters here 2) I'm in so far over my head I feel like the Avatar I just changed my picture to. I don't trust my judgement. Thanks so much to everyone for all of the support here. [/QUOTE]
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