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The Deinstitutionalizing of the mentally ill--a failure?
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<blockquote data-quote="4sumrzn" data-source="post: 131016" data-attributes="member: 4133"><p>Wow. This post has been sitting here for over 2 hours on my screen, trying to read all the replies & trying to respond! (everyone is finally quiet at the moment...I can actually "try" to think<img src="/community/styles/default/xenforo/smilies/tongue.png" class="smilie" loading="lazy" alt=":tongue:" title="tongue :tongue:" data-shortname=":tongue:" />).</p><p> </p><p>I'm going to have to say that Fran brought tears to my eyes. Many more of your replies are scaring me....only because husband & myself talk about this quite often. <span style="color: red">What will happen to difficult child if we are gone? Is there someone we can count on to take care of her? </span><span style="color: black">That's the "if we both are wiped off the face of the earth at the same time".... questions (which, there are many more we talk about). I noticed that quite a few of you already have difficult child teenagers(+) & I'm in the same boat "worrying" with my 7 year old. </span></p><p> </p><p><span style="color: #000000">I just wish there was a way that I could know....for sure...that if difficult child did not have her parents or family (that "maybe" would step in if we were gone)...she would have the help she needs. At this point in her life, I don't believe that is possible. She is not capable of self help skills, the ones she does have are minimal (can't dress herself completely, has eating issues, can't go to the bathroom with-o help, can't communicate at a level that would "make sense"......). SO, I couldn't even imagine her living under that bridge or in jail.......I really don't think she would even survive. But, like I said before, she is 7......maybe my thoughts on that will improve over the years. Doesn't change the fact that I worry what would happen if I (we) were out of the picture unexpectedly. </span></p><p> </p><p><span style="color: #000000">How do I put this??</span></p><p> </p><p><span style="color: #000000">My easy child is a "normal", hormonal, smart, loving, talented young man. I won't give him all of the praise because he gets tired of life in our home</span> sometimes. We continue to remind him that difficult child is part of our family, as hard as it can be at times, we all love her & will do what we can for happiness for all. But, I believe if he were to lose us, he would be able to do what he needed to.....get through....continue on..make choices & has the "right mind" to be "OK" (hope that made sense?).</p><p> </p><p>My difficult child....I'm lost here. If a family member wouldn't step up....she's lost too... "somewhere out there" or doesn't make it "out there" at all! At this time in my life, I don't believe there is anything available to take care of what she would need. But, wait......"if" I HAD a ton of $$$$$...I "might" be able to arrange "something", that "might" (with no certainty), help her be part of the normal world.</p><p> </p><p>Hmmm....finally sitting down for the last time (I hope) to finish this. Still makes me cry.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="4sumrzn, post: 131016, member: 4133"] Wow. This post has been sitting here for over 2 hours on my screen, trying to read all the replies & trying to respond! (everyone is finally quiet at the moment...I can actually "try" to think:raspberry-tounge:). I'm going to have to say that Fran brought tears to my eyes. Many more of your replies are scaring me....only because husband & myself talk about this quite often. [COLOR=red]What will happen to difficult child if we are gone? Is there someone we can count on to take care of her? [/COLOR][COLOR=black]That's the "if we both are wiped off the face of the earth at the same time".... questions (which, there are many more we talk about). I noticed that quite a few of you already have difficult child teenagers(+) & I'm in the same boat "worrying" with my 7 year old. [/COLOR] [COLOR=#000000]I just wish there was a way that I could know....for sure...that if difficult child did not have her parents or family (that "maybe" would step in if we were gone)...she would have the help she needs. At this point in her life, I don't believe that is possible. She is not capable of self help skills, the ones she does have are minimal (can't dress herself completely, has eating issues, can't go to the bathroom with-o help, can't communicate at a level that would "make sense"......). SO, I couldn't even imagine her living under that bridge or in jail.......I really don't think she would even survive. But, like I said before, she is 7......maybe my thoughts on that will improve over the years. Doesn't change the fact that I worry what would happen if I (we) were out of the picture unexpectedly. [/COLOR] [COLOR=#000000]How do I put this??[/COLOR] [COLOR=#000000]My easy child is a "normal", hormonal, smart, loving, talented young man. I won't give him all of the praise because he gets tired of life in our home[/COLOR] sometimes. We continue to remind him that difficult child is part of our family, as hard as it can be at times, we all love her & will do what we can for happiness for all. But, I believe if he were to lose us, he would be able to do what he needed to.....get through....continue on..make choices & has the "right mind" to be "OK" (hope that made sense?). My difficult child....I'm lost here. If a family member wouldn't step up....she's lost too... "somewhere out there" or doesn't make it "out there" at all! At this time in my life, I don't believe there is anything available to take care of what she would need. But, wait......"if" I HAD a ton of $$$$$...I "might" be able to arrange "something", that "might" (with no certainty), help her be part of the normal world. Hmmm....finally sitting down for the last time (I hope) to finish this. Still makes me cry. [/QUOTE]
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