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<blockquote data-quote="Nancy" data-source="post: 522968" data-attributes="member: 59"><p>Don't you wonder what goes through his mind when he does whatever he does to get kicked out of every living arrangement that he is in? I mean it's happened now so many times that he has to know when he takes that drink or smokes that drug that he will be found out and kicked out. Does he not think about what the next step is going to be and what he will do? Does he not realize he will be homeless once again looking for a place to sleep and scrounging around dumps looking for food? It's the true definition of insanity, doing the same thing over and over and expecting different results. Or maybe he doesn't expect different results, maybe he expects exactly what happens to happen and he doesn't care. It just boggles my mind that he gives no thought to tomorrow or next week and just calls you and expects you to bail him out and even when you don't it doesn't stop him from trying.</p><p></p><p> And what must he be talking to his girlfriend about? Wouldn't you just love to hear that converstation? "Hey babe I'm on the street again." "Oh boo what happened?" "I just couldn't take those people any longer, you know they are idiots." "Aw well then good for you. So wat's good boo? You got some stuff to tide you over?" "Well I'm looken to score later today. Hey life is good, I'm just chillin here on the beach and my head is spinnin and I feel great." This is not exactly what the convo would be, it would be filled with a lot of profanity and words you wouldn't even be able to decipher.</p><p></p><p>I don't mean to pick on your difficult child TL because mine is exactly the same way. For the life of me I just will never understand their thinking. Sometimes I think they both want to be wandering hippies. There is no thinking of tomorrow or even the next hour. They do what they want when they want it even knowing the consequences and they don't care. They don't worry like we do, so why should we spend all out waking ours being tormented by their bad choices. They don't worry about it nearly as much as we did because if they did they would change their behavior. They both say they are not addicts and they think they can smoke and drink. Well how's that working for them? Not very well.</p><p></p><p>Just for a few minutes I wish I could get inside their heads. Maybe if we understood how they thought we would know how to help them.</p><p></p><p>Nancy</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Nancy, post: 522968, member: 59"] Don't you wonder what goes through his mind when he does whatever he does to get kicked out of every living arrangement that he is in? I mean it's happened now so many times that he has to know when he takes that drink or smokes that drug that he will be found out and kicked out. Does he not think about what the next step is going to be and what he will do? Does he not realize he will be homeless once again looking for a place to sleep and scrounging around dumps looking for food? It's the true definition of insanity, doing the same thing over and over and expecting different results. Or maybe he doesn't expect different results, maybe he expects exactly what happens to happen and he doesn't care. It just boggles my mind that he gives no thought to tomorrow or next week and just calls you and expects you to bail him out and even when you don't it doesn't stop him from trying. And what must he be talking to his girlfriend about? Wouldn't you just love to hear that converstation? "Hey babe I'm on the street again." "Oh boo what happened?" "I just couldn't take those people any longer, you know they are idiots." "Aw well then good for you. So wat's good boo? You got some stuff to tide you over?" "Well I'm looken to score later today. Hey life is good, I'm just chillin here on the beach and my head is spinnin and I feel great." This is not exactly what the convo would be, it would be filled with a lot of profanity and words you wouldn't even be able to decipher. I don't mean to pick on your difficult child TL because mine is exactly the same way. For the life of me I just will never understand their thinking. Sometimes I think they both want to be wandering hippies. There is no thinking of tomorrow or even the next hour. They do what they want when they want it even knowing the consequences and they don't care. They don't worry like we do, so why should we spend all out waking ours being tormented by their bad choices. They don't worry about it nearly as much as we did because if they did they would change their behavior. They both say they are not addicts and they think they can smoke and drink. Well how's that working for them? Not very well. Just for a few minutes I wish I could get inside their heads. Maybe if we understood how they thought we would know how to help them. Nancy [/QUOTE]
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