The end came last night

[tiredmommy]

Last night, husband's eldest brother and wife finally made it to see mother in law. "D" has been somewhat estranged and visited sporadically at best, his wife has not been to a family event in more than 5 years. husband's younger brother, "P", came in from NC around 4:30PM. Her former daughter in law, whom she loved greatly, had visited in the morning. Duckie and I returned from her rehearsal at 9:10PM, while husband's older sister was directing their younger developmentally disabled to tell her Mom she would be okay. She passed peacefully at 9:15PM, surrounded by love from her family.

 

[slsh]

TM - I'm so sorry, but also so glad that the family was with her and that she passed peacefully. Your family, husband especially, will be in my thoughts.

 

[recoveringenabler]

Sending prayers and warm thoughts to your family.

 

[Nancy]

I'm sorry Julia. Sending prayers of comfort to you and your family.

Nancy

 

[DaisyFace]

So sorry for you and your family....

 

[hearts and roses]

Continued prayers to you and your family. I'm glad mother in law's passing was peaceful and she was surrounded by love.

 

[trinityroyal]

TM, I am so very sorry for your loss. My deepest condolences to you and your family. I am glad that your mother in law passed peacefully, surrounded by loved ones. I will keep you all in my prayers.

 

[Hound dog]

I'm so very sorry for your loss TM. I'm glad it was peaceful and she was surrounded by the love of family.

((((hugs))))

 

[Hopeless]

Very sorry for your loss and sending warm hugs and prayers for all of the family.

 

[cubsgirl]

I'm very sorry for your family's loss but glad that you were all there with her and she went peacefully.

 

[donna723]

I'm so sorry for your loss, TM. But I'm glad that she was surrounded by a loving family when she passed. Hugs and prayers for your family.

 

[Suz]

It is so sad for the family but such a loving gesture to be there for her. Hugs.

Suz

 

[cubsgirl]

How is Duckie holding up?

 

[tiredmommy]

Duckie is doing remarkably well. She picked up her viola and "played out" her grandmother at the end (Ode to Joy, no less), has worked extensively on a slide show of her grandmother, will play viola for the mourners as they enter for the funeral and even offered to read a poem if no one else feels comfortable. She's been just outstanding and I'm incredibly proud of my girl.

 

[SearchingForRainbows]

TM,

I'm so sorry for your loss... I'm glad your mother in law was at peace, surrounded by love... I'm keeping your family in my prayers... Hugs... SFR

P.S. This board "auntie" is extremely proud of Duckie too. Working so hard on the slideshow and playing the viola as mourners enter the church is so touching, such a beautiful way to remember her grandmother... I love the idea of her reading a poem too. Duckie's strength, ability to cope, and reach out to help others at this very sad time is just amazing...

 

[DammitJanet]

TM....Hugs and Prayers.

 

[Kathy813]

Thinking of you and your family at this difficult time . . .

~Kathy

 

[LittleDudesMom]

Prayers of support and comfort for you and the family.

Sharon

 

[hearts and roses]

How wonderful Duckie is doing, wow, she really is the little lovey.

 

[tiredmommy]

Thank you, everyone. I had been quite concerned about Duckie's emotional state and stress level the last several days of school. She developed a coughing tic (way different than her asthma cough) so we backed away from seeing Grandma so much. Once her end of school stuff (recital,DARE graduation, poetry reading, 5th grade graduation, dance banquet and her end of year pool party) was done, she threw herself back into the extended family. I think my sister in law may have been annoyed with me (but didn't say anything) but I had to let Duckie experience these childhood touchstones. And my mother in law held on for all this stuff to occur, for which I am thankful.