hi so i've had enough of the ex, boyfriend's that is. it's gotten to the point now where basically i'm just shutting down and even shutting boyfriend off just to avoid all the drama that is coming since her with the move. It has been so stressful i have to be honest i have not enjoyed the house yet and even being here because i'm so edgy. it started the day we moved, his ex called to talk to him. yup his fault he talks to her i know i know. she proceeds to go on to say how she's afraid now that she wont' get her money each mos. by the way it's child support and alimony he should of stopped a long time ago, yet he pays it to float the boat for her and her partner and his kids ofcourse. she went on to tell him that she loved him wanted him happy he doesnt' look happy, why is he taking on more bills right now etc. can you imagine? i let it go, what could i do? she called a few more times in between our move and he answered her calls as well, i still let it go. later that day i went to pick up his oldest child to let her help us thinking this was a good thing, apparently it was not. his oldest daughter came and her mother his ex called and asked her to walk through the house and describe it to her! than i heard his daughter say oh yes difficult child and easy child got their own room again (by the way my kids share a bedroom), on and on it went. his kids began to complain why dont' we have our own room, etc?? he said well we don't have enough money for that, yet you have your own house 5 nights a week i pay for i can only do so much yet we'll figure something out. there are 3 bedrooms, his son sleeps in the 3rd. yet i'm sure with some thought we could figure it out. than she goes on to attack him at work all day the next day that would be yesterday once again he makes the mistake of engaging. it goes into the night with her using the kids as a mental play card, etc. i try to be supportive, i try to listen etc. yet today he got nasty with me and madea comment evrything's for you and your kids. i said woo wait a minute your kids have a house of their own, we do not we rent and we can work out something here yet you need to help me my back hurts and i wont' do it all alone. so, i have had it with her, with him engaging with her than today suddenly turning on me due to it. nothing horrible yet made that nasty comment and we have barely text all day he won't be home till midnight. i spoke Occupational Therapist (OT) boyfriend's sister today his family is coming for difficult child's birthday on monday for cake after school. their trying to make an effort yet she went on to say how hard his ex is, how she'll never give up she is rentless how it's up to him to draw the boundaries once again with her. i'm not even sure why i'm posting this besides fact i think it stinks that it's happening again. i know i cna't control her, yet i won't let her control me. problem is he's still letting her control him and it's lapping over onto me. i should be able to enjoy this move with my kids, yet anytime boyfriend and i try to move forward in anyway she does this and tortures him (he allows it) than tortures me. by the way boyfriend also said to her you have to get our kids into therapy it's getting bad adn they need help. so that also sparked the endless attack. yet after the attack the two of them are all pink and blue again yet i'm soo not. thanks for letting me eat up the board.