Shari
IsItFridayYet?
Wee will not be with him to speak of for the next 3 weeks. This weekend, husband and I are camping with friends, no kids. You can bet this will be discussed.
One of the friends camping with us is a mechanic. I'm going to have a side-bar with him, just to be sure my "take" on husband being hard on the vehicles is accurate (and I think he'll be honest with me if I'm making a mountain out of a molehill with this). That will kind of direct the next move in the truck search, but assuming my concerns are valid, the truck search will be for the truck that I want, not what can withstand him.
He only got in 2 hours of screen time last night. One of which was before I got home. When I got home, I changed clothes, swapped loads of laundry, and headed into the bank. He folded the dry laundry and worked (some) on getting things in the camper, so that's a start. The kicker will be whether he's doing it to appease me for the moment, or doing it to make a real change in the situation.
Time will tell. He is a good man under this junk. This jerkwad is not the man I married. in my humble opinion, his parents failed him. Probably by doing to him what I watch them do to the grandkids....bail and baby. (and sister-in-law, for that matter...) Never allowing them to be responsible for themselves and always giving in to what they want (and never teaching him to organize ANYTHING). Ex-mother in law worked at the local school when husband attended there. They knew husband had problems reading, but Two Brooms adamantly denied anything wrong with her precious child. She blamed the teachers and everyone else for any problems he had and had no problems walking in and chewing someone a new one about it. Some of the teachers made accomodations for him by allowing him to use tapes instead of reading books or reading him the tests, without an IEP, but it was all done under the radar of Two Brooms...which is really, really sad.
But, the decision to do something about it, at this point, is his and his alone. I can be his mother, or I can be his partner, but I won't be both.
One of the friends camping with us is a mechanic. I'm going to have a side-bar with him, just to be sure my "take" on husband being hard on the vehicles is accurate (and I think he'll be honest with me if I'm making a mountain out of a molehill with this). That will kind of direct the next move in the truck search, but assuming my concerns are valid, the truck search will be for the truck that I want, not what can withstand him.
He only got in 2 hours of screen time last night. One of which was before I got home. When I got home, I changed clothes, swapped loads of laundry, and headed into the bank. He folded the dry laundry and worked (some) on getting things in the camper, so that's a start. The kicker will be whether he's doing it to appease me for the moment, or doing it to make a real change in the situation.
Time will tell. He is a good man under this junk. This jerkwad is not the man I married. in my humble opinion, his parents failed him. Probably by doing to him what I watch them do to the grandkids....bail and baby. (and sister-in-law, for that matter...) Never allowing them to be responsible for themselves and always giving in to what they want (and never teaching him to organize ANYTHING). Ex-mother in law worked at the local school when husband attended there. They knew husband had problems reading, but Two Brooms adamantly denied anything wrong with her precious child. She blamed the teachers and everyone else for any problems he had and had no problems walking in and chewing someone a new one about it. Some of the teachers made accomodations for him by allowing him to use tapes instead of reading books or reading him the tests, without an IEP, but it was all done under the radar of Two Brooms...which is really, really sad.
But, the decision to do something about it, at this point, is his and his alone. I can be his mother, or I can be his partner, but I won't be both.