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<blockquote data-quote="elisem" data-source="post: 66963" data-attributes="member: 2834"><p>Hi guys, </p><p></p><p>Thanks for the support. This is a really great group!</p><p></p><p>A couple of things:</p><p></p><p>first of all, difficult child isn't like this ALL the time. He has periods of being hyper, but basically normal. He can even be very sensitive and sweet. But then he has the bad times. The main reason we're seeking a diagnosis is that the bad times have been getting worse. The hair pulling in the car is an example. That's new--he's often kicked my seat or screamed in the car, but never has he come so close to causing an accident as he did yesterday.</p><p></p><p>My husband would love to stay home. Even when difficult child was a baby, before all this started (it really kicked in when he was three), we agreed that we'd both like it if he could be the one to stay home. The problem is, he's a very clever, technical person and earns $70,000 a year at what he does! Me? I'm a librarian--a great job, but where we live it tops out at $14 a hour, and the health insurance is lousy. We couldn't live on that, I'm afraid--no way, no how, and we're VERY good at scrimping and saving (we live in a 900 square foot cottage, for example). It simply wouldn't work.</p><p></p><p>About homeschooling--we started when difficult child was kicked out of kindergarten for punching a teacher. So it's not true that he's never tried school. I've become a big fan of homeschooling in general--and when difficult child is stable, it works out great. (Like I said, he's hyper--homeschooling allows me to work with his kinesthetic learning style, and it has worked very well for us, academically.) I'd like to keep homeschooling him when (if?) we can get him stable. </p><p></p><p>It's a misconception that homeschoolers aren't socialized--there are so many socialization opportunities out there that I've found myself having to turn down interesting looking things right and left just so that we spend at least a little time at home! We belong to a co-op that meets for classes and play time every monday, and difficult child gets along pretty well with the kids there. There are a couple of boys very close to difficult child's age that also have issues--one is bipolar and ODD and the other is ADHD. So the other parents are pretty understanding when difficult child acts up and has to be taken home. In the fall, if we're still homeschooling, we'll also start homeschool swim lessons (I decided against group music lessons, although that was awfully tempting!).</p><p></p><p>Anyway, ladies--this is my day off, and I'm leaving. difficult child has been acting up and I feel a little guilty about not staying and helping husband, but I'm going out with a girlfriend, and I'm going to try hard to squash the guilty feelings.</p><p></p><p>Cheers!</p><p></p><p>C</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="elisem, post: 66963, member: 2834"] Hi guys, Thanks for the support. This is a really great group! A couple of things: first of all, difficult child isn't like this ALL the time. He has periods of being hyper, but basically normal. He can even be very sensitive and sweet. But then he has the bad times. The main reason we're seeking a diagnosis is that the bad times have been getting worse. The hair pulling in the car is an example. That's new--he's often kicked my seat or screamed in the car, but never has he come so close to causing an accident as he did yesterday. My husband would love to stay home. Even when difficult child was a baby, before all this started (it really kicked in when he was three), we agreed that we'd both like it if he could be the one to stay home. The problem is, he's a very clever, technical person and earns $70,000 a year at what he does! Me? I'm a librarian--a great job, but where we live it tops out at $14 a hour, and the health insurance is lousy. We couldn't live on that, I'm afraid--no way, no how, and we're VERY good at scrimping and saving (we live in a 900 square foot cottage, for example). It simply wouldn't work. About homeschooling--we started when difficult child was kicked out of kindergarten for punching a teacher. So it's not true that he's never tried school. I've become a big fan of homeschooling in general--and when difficult child is stable, it works out great. (Like I said, he's hyper--homeschooling allows me to work with his kinesthetic learning style, and it has worked very well for us, academically.) I'd like to keep homeschooling him when (if?) we can get him stable. It's a misconception that homeschoolers aren't socialized--there are so many socialization opportunities out there that I've found myself having to turn down interesting looking things right and left just so that we spend at least a little time at home! We belong to a co-op that meets for classes and play time every monday, and difficult child gets along pretty well with the kids there. There are a couple of boys very close to difficult child's age that also have issues--one is bipolar and ODD and the other is ADHD. So the other parents are pretty understanding when difficult child acts up and has to be taken home. In the fall, if we're still homeschooling, we'll also start homeschool swim lessons (I decided against group music lessons, although that was awfully tempting!). Anyway, ladies--this is my day off, and I'm leaving. difficult child has been acting up and I feel a little guilty about not staying and helping husband, but I'm going out with a girlfriend, and I'm going to try hard to squash the guilty feelings. Cheers! C [/QUOTE]
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