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<blockquote data-quote="AnnieO" data-source="post: 253657" data-attributes="member: 6705"><p>Steely... Wow... You do have a way with words. I'm still struggling - the right now is not so bad, difficult child 1 is being very good (at home), things are working out to some extent, and I feel like at any second the ice will crack and I will plunge back into the icy water of another explosion. But you're right. I have a lot of residual anger for some of the things difficult child 1 has done to me (and husband, and difficult child 2) in the last couple of years. There have been times I just wanted to send her back to her biomom. I could never allow that - I know she needs to be away from the man her mother chose over her - I love her too much. But sometimes...</p><p> </p><p>I have an advantage you don't, though. I <strong><em>can</em></strong> walk away. I'm not a biological parent. I can say f*** it all and leave. Somehow I think knowing this, that I have that option, makes me more able to stay and see this through. Real mothers do whatever they have to, to make their children safe. ...But as I said, I have a choice that you do not.</p><p> </p><p>My grandmother said to me once, "hope for the best...prepare for the worst." I keep reminding myself of this each time something happens with my kids.</p><p> </p><p>And by the way - the OWH quote on your signature says it all.</p><p> </p><p>(((((HUGS)))))</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="AnnieO, post: 253657, member: 6705"] Steely... Wow... You do have a way with words. I'm still struggling - the right now is not so bad, difficult child 1 is being very good (at home), things are working out to some extent, and I feel like at any second the ice will crack and I will plunge back into the icy water of another explosion. But you're right. I have a lot of residual anger for some of the things difficult child 1 has done to me (and husband, and difficult child 2) in the last couple of years. There have been times I just wanted to send her back to her biomom. I could never allow that - I know she needs to be away from the man her mother chose over her - I love her too much. But sometimes... I have an advantage you don't, though. I [B][I]can[/I][/B] walk away. I'm not a biological parent. I can say f*** it all and leave. Somehow I think knowing this, that I have that option, makes me more able to stay and see this through. Real mothers do whatever they have to, to make their children safe. ...But as I said, I have a choice that you do not. My grandmother said to me once, "hope for the best...prepare for the worst." I keep reminding myself of this each time something happens with my kids. And by the way - the OWH quote on your signature says it all. (((((HUGS))))) [/QUOTE]
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