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The melting of my M&Ms
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<blockquote data-quote="Mattsmom277" data-source="post: 456402" data-attributes="member: 4264"><p>Whew/phew! What a hectic crazy time you've been having. I can understand your worry for your mom. I mean even with the busyness of your month and the months before of helping your mom, the moves and so on, you've got the feeling of no fires left to put out? huh? what? really? So with your mother, I am guessing here that she is trying to stay so busy she doesn't yet have to face that same feeling, and therefore the loss of your father and her new reality as a widowed woman and a future on her own etc. Maybe if the time feels appropriate at some point you can just mention you've noticed she's been constantly busy and involved with projects and trips and company etc since your dads passing and you're glad she's staying busy but also hoping she's taking time to absorb the loss and whatnot. Sort of a indirect way of opening the door for her to say yes, I don't want to think about it or whatever if she wants to (and if thats the case) and you can gear the conversation from there.</p><p></p><p>In the meantime, you are in a similar situation. Through not a lot of choice, you've been crazy busy with huge things happening, changes, loss, moves, all that time with your Matt, etc. And now you can breathe, absorb your new normal, new home, new future etc. I hope you're as gentle on yourself to give yourself time to reflect and ease into this new beginning as you sound like you're being about your mom. Ultimately you can only do so much for M&M. It sounds like time to let them cope with their changes and just let your focus be yourself for a while. You certainly deserve it and darn well earned it. </p><p></p><p>Tell us about your new digs!!! I can't remember exact details but I remember a post that sounded nice about the new place. How are you settling into it? Anything neat in your neighborhood etc?</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Mattsmom277, post: 456402, member: 4264"] Whew/phew! What a hectic crazy time you've been having. I can understand your worry for your mom. I mean even with the busyness of your month and the months before of helping your mom, the moves and so on, you've got the feeling of no fires left to put out? huh? what? really? So with your mother, I am guessing here that she is trying to stay so busy she doesn't yet have to face that same feeling, and therefore the loss of your father and her new reality as a widowed woman and a future on her own etc. Maybe if the time feels appropriate at some point you can just mention you've noticed she's been constantly busy and involved with projects and trips and company etc since your dads passing and you're glad she's staying busy but also hoping she's taking time to absorb the loss and whatnot. Sort of a indirect way of opening the door for her to say yes, I don't want to think about it or whatever if she wants to (and if thats the case) and you can gear the conversation from there. In the meantime, you are in a similar situation. Through not a lot of choice, you've been crazy busy with huge things happening, changes, loss, moves, all that time with your Matt, etc. And now you can breathe, absorb your new normal, new home, new future etc. I hope you're as gentle on yourself to give yourself time to reflect and ease into this new beginning as you sound like you're being about your mom. Ultimately you can only do so much for M&M. It sounds like time to let them cope with their changes and just let your focus be yourself for a while. You certainly deserve it and darn well earned it. Tell us about your new digs!!! I can't remember exact details but I remember a post that sounded nice about the new place. How are you settling into it? Anything neat in your neighborhood etc? [/QUOTE]
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