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<blockquote data-quote="TeDo" data-source="post: 471173"><p>In a way I'm talking about picking battles but it's actually more than that. I don't "battle" with him on things that won't matter when he is adult. As a kid, he needs to follow rules and do things they hate and so on because adults say they have to. But in reality, there are some things we expect kids to do that just aren't going to matter when they aren't under age or under our roofs. For those kids that don't generalize, like mine, some lessons that teach a broader skill aren't always that important. It's a very fine line at times but it is still there. I want my difficult child to learn how to do what he needs to survive, how to get what he needs through proper channels, and deal with the frustration that comes with things not working out the way he wants or thinks they should. In life, there will always be woulda, coulda, shoulda but most of those come with hindsight. I don't like getting caught up in that cycle.</p><p></p><p>Be gentle with yourself, unless you have the gift of seeing the future. There are times I wish I did but then again, I'm not sure I REALLY want to know. lol</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="TeDo, post: 471173"] In a way I'm talking about picking battles but it's actually more than that. I don't "battle" with him on things that won't matter when he is adult. As a kid, he needs to follow rules and do things they hate and so on because adults say they have to. But in reality, there are some things we expect kids to do that just aren't going to matter when they aren't under age or under our roofs. For those kids that don't generalize, like mine, some lessons that teach a broader skill aren't always that important. It's a very fine line at times but it is still there. I want my difficult child to learn how to do what he needs to survive, how to get what he needs through proper channels, and deal with the frustration that comes with things not working out the way he wants or thinks they should. In life, there will always be woulda, coulda, shoulda but most of those come with hindsight. I don't like getting caught up in that cycle. Be gentle with yourself, unless you have the gift of seeing the future. There are times I wish I did but then again, I'm not sure I REALLY want to know. lol [/QUOTE]
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