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<blockquote data-quote="ANewLife4Me" data-source="post: 764877" data-attributes="member: 32799"><p>My experience with my daughter in jail, 5 or 6 times she has been in, has not been positive. Before I decided to go no contact this time my every nerve fiber was listening for that collect call from the jail. If you go to visit your loved one in jail you’re essentially treated as an inmate, harshly. My daughter told me that it’s not too horrible being in, they mostly sleep - watch tv - play cards. They use anything to exercise with, her area had steps and she would walk up and down them to keep some type of muscle going on. The food is horrible, mostly beans but on holidays they get a special meal on that day. Fights? They do happen. She told me of girls getting upset over someone farting or snoring too loud. She told me one time the girls ganged up on her but she was able to fight them off. I asked did they get in trouble? She said no, it was off camera. My daughter has a nasty attitude and can image the girls getting upset with her quickly. They can get special things if they have money in their canteen like socks, deodorant, instant coffee - the jail does not supply them with anything other than the clothes on their back and meals. The canteen can also be a source of fights and is frequently stolen from those who have bought things. They can make phonecalls and some jails even have texting again, if they have money in their account. Everything is expensive for you putting money on anything.</p><p></p><p>Hopefully that helps you some, I imagined worse case scenarios in my head all day long and her answer? Oh it’s not that bad, just boring.</p><p></p><p>In my opinion, don’t pay for a lawyer. He will be appointed one through the court - don’t worry about that. Let him think while he is in there and maybe don’t answer his calls or money for canteen? Let him know you cannot be there for him anymore as he is an adult now and needs to start in helping himself. As I said we all have our timelines and ways we go about things. Myself I went through 4-5 times of her being in jail doing all the above I mentioned. Personally I have had it, at the end of my rope, done. If she decides to help herself and truly stick with it, I will help too. None of us here are heartless parents, infact we have too much heart. <img class="smilie smilie--emoji" loading="lazy" alt="❤️" title="Red heart :heart:" src="https://cdn.jsdelivr.net/joypixels/assets/6.6/png/unicode/64/2764.png" data-shortname=":heart:" /></p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="ANewLife4Me, post: 764877, member: 32799"] My experience with my daughter in jail, 5 or 6 times she has been in, has not been positive. Before I decided to go no contact this time my every nerve fiber was listening for that collect call from the jail. If you go to visit your loved one in jail you’re essentially treated as an inmate, harshly. My daughter told me that it’s not too horrible being in, they mostly sleep - watch tv - play cards. They use anything to exercise with, her area had steps and she would walk up and down them to keep some type of muscle going on. The food is horrible, mostly beans but on holidays they get a special meal on that day. Fights? They do happen. She told me of girls getting upset over someone farting or snoring too loud. She told me one time the girls ganged up on her but she was able to fight them off. I asked did they get in trouble? She said no, it was off camera. My daughter has a nasty attitude and can image the girls getting upset with her quickly. They can get special things if they have money in their canteen like socks, deodorant, instant coffee - the jail does not supply them with anything other than the clothes on their back and meals. The canteen can also be a source of fights and is frequently stolen from those who have bought things. They can make phonecalls and some jails even have texting again, if they have money in their account. Everything is expensive for you putting money on anything. Hopefully that helps you some, I imagined worse case scenarios in my head all day long and her answer? Oh it’s not that bad, just boring. In my opinion, don’t pay for a lawyer. He will be appointed one through the court - don’t worry about that. Let him think while he is in there and maybe don’t answer his calls or money for canteen? Let him know you cannot be there for him anymore as he is an adult now and needs to start in helping himself. As I said we all have our timelines and ways we go about things. Myself I went through 4-5 times of her being in jail doing all the above I mentioned. Personally I have had it, at the end of my rope, done. If she decides to help herself and truly stick with it, I will help too. None of us here are heartless parents, infact we have too much heart. ❤️ [/QUOTE]
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