dashcat
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ARRGGGHH!!!
Brief backstory for those who may not have followed (why would you? so crazy). Ossy (see tag line for description of difficult child's dad's moniker) rose to the occasion when she took my wedding rings from a box on his dresser. He appeared to rise again when she was behind on her cellphone bill. He TURNED OFF HER TEXTING! (but didnt' tell - so she thought it was a glitch). He did not turn off her data plan...so she can still access dating sites, email and engage in all sorts of unfortunate activities.
When she was confronted -by me -for having violated a major condition of living here .. by having an internet dude pick her up at my home, she assumed she could move in with him. He said "no - you have to work it out with your mom". When, in reality, it was because he really doesn't want her living there (he tells me - because she is a slob .. part of it, yes .... reality ..she cramps his bachelor lifestyle). I confronted him on this, telling him I was in a terrible position. She is here, safe, warm, not paying rent (though she is supposed to), ill , unmediated ... and he makes it sound as though she is stuck here .. must WORK IT OUT, vs the real reason. He promised to tell her -when she had dinner with him tonight ... why she could not live there.
Did he?
Of course not.
However, he did call me to reassure me that she promises to go on medications (right). He said they talked about "my expectations" and how she "needed to communicate to me" her needs vis a vis having strange internet dudes pick her up here. Perhaps I need to work on my communication because "the rules keep changing"?
REALLY??????????????????
THEN he has the unmitigated gall to tell me that, while he is demanding she pay him back for the phone bill ($90) and pay her car insurance (I back him on this) and, though he cashes her paychecks because even WALMART won't cash them (why? I wonder this), he isn't "comfortable" collecting what she owes me in rent.
SERIOUSLY?????????
You - Mr.-divorced-and-living-quite-comfortably would collect your $90 freaking dollars when she owes me TWO MONTHS RENT for utilities and food she has actually consumed (I did not get the good end in this divorce agreement, by the way) ?????????
AND you have ALL the answers when you have ONE conversation with her ...when you have not been alone with her for a dinner for about 9 months (he does see her, but not without the girlfriend....who is not to blame) and I live with a bi-polar, unpredictable, (did I say unmedicated?), lying, manipulating person 24/7? You figured it out in the course of three hours?
How I wish I had your wisdom!
End of rant .... (I am exhausted, frazzled and completely spent. Forgive me)
Dash
Brief backstory for those who may not have followed (why would you? so crazy). Ossy (see tag line for description of difficult child's dad's moniker) rose to the occasion when she took my wedding rings from a box on his dresser. He appeared to rise again when she was behind on her cellphone bill. He TURNED OFF HER TEXTING! (but didnt' tell - so she thought it was a glitch). He did not turn off her data plan...so she can still access dating sites, email and engage in all sorts of unfortunate activities.
When she was confronted -by me -for having violated a major condition of living here .. by having an internet dude pick her up at my home, she assumed she could move in with him. He said "no - you have to work it out with your mom". When, in reality, it was because he really doesn't want her living there (he tells me - because she is a slob .. part of it, yes .... reality ..she cramps his bachelor lifestyle). I confronted him on this, telling him I was in a terrible position. She is here, safe, warm, not paying rent (though she is supposed to), ill , unmediated ... and he makes it sound as though she is stuck here .. must WORK IT OUT, vs the real reason. He promised to tell her -when she had dinner with him tonight ... why she could not live there.
Did he?
Of course not.
However, he did call me to reassure me that she promises to go on medications (right). He said they talked about "my expectations" and how she "needed to communicate to me" her needs vis a vis having strange internet dudes pick her up here. Perhaps I need to work on my communication because "the rules keep changing"?
REALLY??????????????????
THEN he has the unmitigated gall to tell me that, while he is demanding she pay him back for the phone bill ($90) and pay her car insurance (I back him on this) and, though he cashes her paychecks because even WALMART won't cash them (why? I wonder this), he isn't "comfortable" collecting what she owes me in rent.
SERIOUSLY?????????
You - Mr.-divorced-and-living-quite-comfortably would collect your $90 freaking dollars when she owes me TWO MONTHS RENT for utilities and food she has actually consumed (I did not get the good end in this divorce agreement, by the way) ?????????
AND you have ALL the answers when you have ONE conversation with her ...when you have not been alone with her for a dinner for about 9 months (he does see her, but not without the girlfriend....who is not to blame) and I live with a bi-polar, unpredictable, (did I say unmedicated?), lying, manipulating person 24/7? You figured it out in the course of three hours?
How I wish I had your wisdom!
End of rant .... (I am exhausted, frazzled and completely spent. Forgive me)
Dash