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<blockquote data-quote="Marguerite" data-source="post: 212116" data-attributes="member: 1991"><p>Did he say WHY he took the patch off? Because unless he can be compliant, then he will keep doing this because he can.</p><p></p><p>So often our kids can't see any difference in themselves on/off medications, they just have to take other people's word for it.</p><p></p><p>We went through this at times mostly with difficult child 1 and sometimes easy child 2/difficult child 2. When they both complained that THEy don't have a problem but when they're off their medications it's everybody else who is mean, horrible and unreasonable, I used plain logic (making sure they were medicated when we talked about it!) and said, "What are the odds that absolutely EVERYBODY is being mean, even people who haven't talked to other people about you and who therefore haven't been 'primed' to be mean? Think about it - most unlikely. So how about the possibility that you are unaware of just how belligerent and difficult you can be when off your medications, and that you are unwittingly antagonising the people around you, including people who don't know you? MUCH more likely.</p><p></p><p>And regardless of why, if people are only horrible to you when you're off your medications - then TAKE YOUR medications!!</p><p></p><p>I'd be finding out why he has a problem. If it's purely defiance against authority and being 'made' to wear the patch, then you need to find a way to motivate him to want the patch on. The child has to be motivated. You really need to listen to his reasons, and HE needs to be open and honest with you about his reasons.</p><p></p><p>Reasons to listen to and try to help with - "I don't like how it makes me feel." "I don't like everyone saying I'm on drugs." "It itches, my skin goes red where the patch is."</p><p></p><p>You need to help him find answers, but if the alternative is to take medications orally and he has been non-compliant, then point this out - "How can we give them to you orally, when you either forget to take them or you spit them out? It's worse than no medications at all, to only have them sometimes and unpredictably." Maybe if you engage him in finding a solution, then together you can sort out a better alternative.</p><p></p><p>Marg</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Marguerite, post: 212116, member: 1991"] Did he say WHY he took the patch off? Because unless he can be compliant, then he will keep doing this because he can. So often our kids can't see any difference in themselves on/off medications, they just have to take other people's word for it. We went through this at times mostly with difficult child 1 and sometimes easy child 2/difficult child 2. When they both complained that THEy don't have a problem but when they're off their medications it's everybody else who is mean, horrible and unreasonable, I used plain logic (making sure they were medicated when we talked about it!) and said, "What are the odds that absolutely EVERYBODY is being mean, even people who haven't talked to other people about you and who therefore haven't been 'primed' to be mean? Think about it - most unlikely. So how about the possibility that you are unaware of just how belligerent and difficult you can be when off your medications, and that you are unwittingly antagonising the people around you, including people who don't know you? MUCH more likely. And regardless of why, if people are only horrible to you when you're off your medications - then TAKE YOUR medications!! I'd be finding out why he has a problem. If it's purely defiance against authority and being 'made' to wear the patch, then you need to find a way to motivate him to want the patch on. The child has to be motivated. You really need to listen to his reasons, and HE needs to be open and honest with you about his reasons. Reasons to listen to and try to help with - "I don't like how it makes me feel." "I don't like everyone saying I'm on drugs." "It itches, my skin goes red where the patch is." You need to help him find answers, but if the alternative is to take medications orally and he has been non-compliant, then point this out - "How can we give them to you orally, when you either forget to take them or you spit them out? It's worse than no medications at all, to only have them sometimes and unpredictably." Maybe if you engage him in finding a solution, then together you can sort out a better alternative. Marg [/QUOTE]
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