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<blockquote data-quote="timer lady" data-source="post: 86421" data-attributes="member: 393"><p>Vickie,</p><p></p><p>I witness those same behaviors out of both kt & wm. kt slips into those dissociative states - her toddler "alter", for lack of a better term. And there isn't a darned thing I can do but wait it out. </p><p></p><p>Like you, I get angry. I get sad that my daughter cannot/isn't like the other children out & having fun. Enjoying a wonderful day at a wonderful place.</p><p></p><p>Like you, I cry...it breaks my heart. </p><p></p><p>In fact, the more I see the mature 13 y/o kt, the angrier & sadder I get when she slips into the toddler alter (a very distinct little person in her own right). I hate what kt has had to survive to display this alter.</p><p></p><p>Having said that, Aly hasn't lived the same life as kt. However, Aly has issues that likely push her into some of the same presenting behaviors/symptoms, whatever.</p><p></p><p>I don't blame you....your daughter is losing out on the fun of childhood. She's losing out on a beautiful day. I doubt that she was intentionally having a meltdown. I would guess the level of stimulation, combined with her frustration of being told no set her off. I would guess that Aly has the same low tolerance of frustration, the same low tolerance of high stimulation situations.</p><p></p><p>Forgive yourself. Forgive Aly. Enjoy the respite & move on. You've learned a lesson on what Aly can experience at this time. A year from now, she may just blossom at the pumpkin farm.</p><p></p><p>Be gentle with yourself, okay?</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="timer lady, post: 86421, member: 393"] Vickie, I witness those same behaviors out of both kt & wm. kt slips into those dissociative states - her toddler "alter", for lack of a better term. And there isn't a darned thing I can do but wait it out. Like you, I get angry. I get sad that my daughter cannot/isn't like the other children out & having fun. Enjoying a wonderful day at a wonderful place. Like you, I cry...it breaks my heart. In fact, the more I see the mature 13 y/o kt, the angrier & sadder I get when she slips into the toddler alter (a very distinct little person in her own right). I hate what kt has had to survive to display this alter. Having said that, Aly hasn't lived the same life as kt. However, Aly has issues that likely push her into some of the same presenting behaviors/symptoms, whatever. I don't blame you....your daughter is losing out on the fun of childhood. She's losing out on a beautiful day. I doubt that she was intentionally having a meltdown. I would guess the level of stimulation, combined with her frustration of being told no set her off. I would guess that Aly has the same low tolerance of frustration, the same low tolerance of high stimulation situations. Forgive yourself. Forgive Aly. Enjoy the respite & move on. You've learned a lesson on what Aly can experience at this time. A year from now, she may just blossom at the pumpkin farm. Be gentle with yourself, okay? [/QUOTE]
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