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The Residential Treatment Facility (RTF) Just Ain't Cuttin' It
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<blockquote data-quote="Fran" data-source="post: 73837" data-attributes="member: 3"><p>Janna,</p><p> Truthfully, I have looked high and low. The program we dream of doesn't exist. My difficult child was so wildly out of control that school was virtually not doable. He was a walk in a park compared to the rest of the residents. He never intentionally did negative, ugly or violent things. No drugs, law breaking, destruction but he was the least capable of functioning. Did absolutely no school work, barely showered etc, etc. He is developmentally delayed. Unfortunately 10yrs ago there was little or no programs that were for my son.</p><p></p><p> I would look for a program that deals with developmental delay and emotional maturity of Pervasive Developmental Disorder (PDD). It is not a behavior based program. My son was an enigma in every program. Most programs that deal with developmental delay tended to have kids who weren't as difficult behaviorally as mine. He didn't fit in any one category.</p><p></p><p> My son does not have a label of ODD but his defiance was his biggest problem. I stopped worrying about the labels. Just some results would be helpful. Besides with schools and everyone else Pervasive Developmental Disorder (PDD) trumps ODD. I always lead in with the developmental delay. It seems to be easier for professionals and school districts to deal with. It's something they can <em>do</em>. </p><p></p><p> One of the helpful tools I used to be an asset to helping my son was literally listing A) my expectations. B) pros and cons to the program C) what the alternative would be D)Could something else work better. E)taking him home will achieve what?</p><p> My suggestion for what it's worth is to be realistic(as Sara says). Use concrete complaints with examples. Offer suggestions. Don't lose site of the goal by drowning in the smaller issues.</p><p> In the end, it's your child and you want to do right by him. I can tell you that no program does what we fantasize it will do no matter the program or amount of money involved. It is a gradual learning process for our kids and it's a gradual learning process for us. </p><p> Hopefully some day there will be a program that is set up for kids with Pervasive Developmental Disorder (PDD) who exhibit behavior issues that other Pervasive Developmental Disorder (PDD) programs won't deal with. </p><p></p><p> Good luck trying to find the right fit for your son but be aware that there is probably not going to be a 100% fit. It simply doesn't exist. 70% was the best I could find. It helped and it wasn't a negative environment for my son although he was exposed to language that he never heard before as well as violent responses of teens to staff. It was an eye opener.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Fran, post: 73837, member: 3"] Janna, Truthfully, I have looked high and low. The program we dream of doesn't exist. My difficult child was so wildly out of control that school was virtually not doable. He was a walk in a park compared to the rest of the residents. He never intentionally did negative, ugly or violent things. No drugs, law breaking, destruction but he was the least capable of functioning. Did absolutely no school work, barely showered etc, etc. He is developmentally delayed. Unfortunately 10yrs ago there was little or no programs that were for my son. I would look for a program that deals with developmental delay and emotional maturity of Pervasive Developmental Disorder (PDD). It is not a behavior based program. My son was an enigma in every program. Most programs that deal with developmental delay tended to have kids who weren't as difficult behaviorally as mine. He didn't fit in any one category. My son does not have a label of ODD but his defiance was his biggest problem. I stopped worrying about the labels. Just some results would be helpful. Besides with schools and everyone else Pervasive Developmental Disorder (PDD) trumps ODD. I always lead in with the developmental delay. It seems to be easier for professionals and school districts to deal with. It's something they can [i]do[/i]. One of the helpful tools I used to be an asset to helping my son was literally listing A) my expectations. B) pros and cons to the program C) what the alternative would be D)Could something else work better. E)taking him home will achieve what? My suggestion for what it's worth is to be realistic(as Sara says). Use concrete complaints with examples. Offer suggestions. Don't lose site of the goal by drowning in the smaller issues. In the end, it's your child and you want to do right by him. I can tell you that no program does what we fantasize it will do no matter the program or amount of money involved. It is a gradual learning process for our kids and it's a gradual learning process for us. Hopefully some day there will be a program that is set up for kids with Pervasive Developmental Disorder (PDD) who exhibit behavior issues that other Pervasive Developmental Disorder (PDD) programs won't deal with. Good luck trying to find the right fit for your son but be aware that there is probably not going to be a 100% fit. It simply doesn't exist. 70% was the best I could find. It helped and it wasn't a negative environment for my son although he was exposed to language that he never heard before as well as violent responses of teens to staff. It was an eye opener. [/QUOTE]
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