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<blockquote data-quote="TerryJ2" data-source="post: 408460" data-attributes="member: 3419"><p>Welcome, AZ Sheila. I HEAR YOU!</p><p></p><p>That could be my son! But only on a bad day. He has good days. And sometimes they're all in the same day. <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite2" alt=";)" title="Wink ;)" loading="lazy" data-shortname=";)" /></p><p></p><p>Did you mean to say that the stimulant he's on for ADHD is making him ODD and that this is new? I'm wondering, from what I've read of others' on this board, if he's bipolar or something. Stimulants tend to make those kids worse.</p><p></p><p>Have you tried clonidine yet? It was and is a lifesaver for us.</p><p></p><p>In regard to the F word, we started by washing our son's mouth out with-soap. No kidding. That was yrs ago. He stopped, but now he's 14 and has learned to say it in Spanish!!! Luckily, he's not done it in anger, so I laugh and blow it off, and he doesn't do it unless he hears it in a song and then he points it out. Sharing is so sweet, isn't it? </p><p></p><p>Anyway, one thing I KNOW works with-these kids is a strict pattern of sleep, and routine, routine, routine.</p><p></p><p>Do not give in when it comes to school. He's got to go, or he's got to make it up at home and turn in the assignments. It doesn't have to be a fight. Find out what your son absolutely loves and use that for leverage. For my son, it's anything electronic. Cell phone, computer, Xbox, TV. We had a friend cut the TV cord in half and replace the ends with-an appliance plug. That way difficult child cannot turn it on in the middle of the night. Each night we take the end of the cord and lock it up.</p><p></p><p>Oh, by the way, do you have locks on the doors? Bedrooms, etc? That way you can lock up equipment, foods he's allergic to, etc. He will eventually break the locks so be prepared for that. Just replace them with-something better. You've always got to be one up on him. He messes up the wall, you paint it over, and over and over until he realizes you will outlast him. Doesn't have to be a fight. Just observation on his part that you won't give up.</p><p></p><p>I can type this right now because difficult child just left for school, I've had a good night's sleep, and life is good. Two days ago, I could have written your note. Overall, in many ways, I hate my life. I didn't sign up for this. I have no idea where I get the stamina, except to say, like in AA, I take it one day at a time.</p><p></p><p>P.S. Someone else here mentioned Asperger's in regard to his rigidity and inability to transition. I would definitely have him tested for a Pervasive Developmental Disorder (PDD).</p><p></p><p>Hugs.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="TerryJ2, post: 408460, member: 3419"] Welcome, AZ Sheila. I HEAR YOU! That could be my son! But only on a bad day. He has good days. And sometimes they're all in the same day. ;) Did you mean to say that the stimulant he's on for ADHD is making him ODD and that this is new? I'm wondering, from what I've read of others' on this board, if he's bipolar or something. Stimulants tend to make those kids worse. Have you tried clonidine yet? It was and is a lifesaver for us. In regard to the F word, we started by washing our son's mouth out with-soap. No kidding. That was yrs ago. He stopped, but now he's 14 and has learned to say it in Spanish!!! Luckily, he's not done it in anger, so I laugh and blow it off, and he doesn't do it unless he hears it in a song and then he points it out. Sharing is so sweet, isn't it? Anyway, one thing I KNOW works with-these kids is a strict pattern of sleep, and routine, routine, routine. Do not give in when it comes to school. He's got to go, or he's got to make it up at home and turn in the assignments. It doesn't have to be a fight. Find out what your son absolutely loves and use that for leverage. For my son, it's anything electronic. Cell phone, computer, Xbox, TV. We had a friend cut the TV cord in half and replace the ends with-an appliance plug. That way difficult child cannot turn it on in the middle of the night. Each night we take the end of the cord and lock it up. Oh, by the way, do you have locks on the doors? Bedrooms, etc? That way you can lock up equipment, foods he's allergic to, etc. He will eventually break the locks so be prepared for that. Just replace them with-something better. You've always got to be one up on him. He messes up the wall, you paint it over, and over and over until he realizes you will outlast him. Doesn't have to be a fight. Just observation on his part that you won't give up. I can type this right now because difficult child just left for school, I've had a good night's sleep, and life is good. Two days ago, I could have written your note. Overall, in many ways, I hate my life. I didn't sign up for this. I have no idea where I get the stamina, except to say, like in AA, I take it one day at a time. P.S. Someone else here mentioned Asperger's in regard to his rigidity and inability to transition. I would definitely have him tested for a Pervasive Developmental Disorder (PDD). Hugs. [/QUOTE]
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