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<blockquote data-quote="2much2recover" data-source="post: 644427" data-attributes="member: 18366"><p>I would add to Cedar's post that if you don't think it is drugs he is using (or that it is only part of the problem), try to spend your time trying to figure out what is wrong with him so you two can begin the long process of acceptance. From much earlier posts of yours, I remember that you said his DNA father had a lot of problems too. Could these inherited traits be rearing it's ugly head? From what I have read I can not see anything that either of you haven't tried, anything that hasn't come from a place of love and concern for your son to end up in this situation he created for himself except that there is just something off about him - possibly coming from his inherited DNA, that you don't have a handle on just yet.</p><p>It may be helpful, if both of you are willing, for the two of you to go to a therapist for a while, but it has to be someone you really, really like and trust, to try and help you sort out what may be wrong with him and healthy ways to deal with what he is bringing to you both. In my opinion, once actions no longer work, knowledge is king. With knowledge of the what you are dealing with, you can learn not only how to handle your own emotions about this, but healthy way to react or not react to him. </p><p>I know you are really, really angry right now and therefore feeling done. However in time other emotions are going to come into play and I just feel it is in both your best interests to talk to someone who can give you guidance on the best way for you to proceed.</p><p>Finally I would like to say that neither of you are deserving of this ugly behavior that your son has visited upon you. You both seem to very much be warm loving parents who have been willing to do whatever is necessary to help your son. He is just not aware of how lucky he has had it with the two of you as parents. A strong dose of tough love from people who love him might just be the key to turning this whole situation around.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="2much2recover, post: 644427, member: 18366"] I would add to Cedar's post that if you don't think it is drugs he is using (or that it is only part of the problem), try to spend your time trying to figure out what is wrong with him so you two can begin the long process of acceptance. From much earlier posts of yours, I remember that you said his DNA father had a lot of problems too. Could these inherited traits be rearing it's ugly head? From what I have read I can not see anything that either of you haven't tried, anything that hasn't come from a place of love and concern for your son to end up in this situation he created for himself except that there is just something off about him - possibly coming from his inherited DNA, that you don't have a handle on just yet. It may be helpful, if both of you are willing, for the two of you to go to a therapist for a while, but it has to be someone you really, really like and trust, to try and help you sort out what may be wrong with him and healthy ways to deal with what he is bringing to you both. In my opinion, once actions no longer work, knowledge is king. With knowledge of the what you are dealing with, you can learn not only how to handle your own emotions about this, but healthy way to react or not react to him. I know you are really, really angry right now and therefore feeling done. However in time other emotions are going to come into play and I just feel it is in both your best interests to talk to someone who can give you guidance on the best way for you to proceed. Finally I would like to say that neither of you are deserving of this ugly behavior that your son has visited upon you. You both seem to very much be warm loving parents who have been willing to do whatever is necessary to help your son. He is just not aware of how lucky he has had it with the two of you as parents. A strong dose of tough love from people who love him might just be the key to turning this whole situation around. [/QUOTE]
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