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<blockquote data-quote="Jabberwockey" data-source="post: 644434" data-attributes="member: 18238"><p>We've had that conversation several times. The last time was less than a week ago. Obviously, it didn't do any good. Honestly, I don't want to have a conversation with him right now because I don't want to see that blank look in his eyes and the expression on his face that dances between disdain and anger. The comment I previously made about no more advice stands. Whether you try to beat your head against a brick wall or reason with it, the outcome is basically the same. He has yet to know true despair or hunger as we keep covering for him. Other than the housing, which ends on June 1st along with the cell phone, we are done covering for him. When he asked me yesterday to borrow the $10 for food I mentioned the food pantry. His response was that it was too cold to walk back from there carrying a crate of food. He isn't hungry.....yet. But he will be and that's when he will be forced to go back to the Salvation Army for a hot meal every day or walk to the food pantry for some ramen noodles.</p><p></p><p></p><p></p><p>Lil is angry but more at herself because she didn't see this coming. I'm not angry, in fact I haven't been (other than the blowup at home last week, but we all know how trying a difficult child can be face to face) angry in a really long time. I'm disappointed and hurt and the sad thing is that I can't really figure out if its because of his actions or because I was expecting this. Granted, thought he'd work a bit longer than this, but when we did this I thought that IF he paid February then I would consider starting to allow myself to hope just a little bit.</p><p></p><p>For the record, while I will admit to not knowing the extent, I'd be shocked to find out he wasn't doing drugs right now. The only reason he's quit spouting crap about legalization of pot to us is that we've told him that we don't want to hear it anymore.</p><p></p><p>Don't get me wrong, our difficult child is MORE than capable of getting and holding a job, paying his bills, and living his life constructively. His major issue right now, possible DNA issues from BIO not withstanding, is that He Doesn't Want To! I cant make him want to and I'm not going to try. He has a roof over his head which has taken some stress off of Lil and he has time. What, if anything, he does with it is entirely up to him. Sorry folks but I'm tired of not having clean pants because I'm constantly pissing in the wind.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Jabberwockey, post: 644434, member: 18238"] We've had that conversation several times. The last time was less than a week ago. Obviously, it didn't do any good. Honestly, I don't want to have a conversation with him right now because I don't want to see that blank look in his eyes and the expression on his face that dances between disdain and anger. The comment I previously made about no more advice stands. Whether you try to beat your head against a brick wall or reason with it, the outcome is basically the same. He has yet to know true despair or hunger as we keep covering for him. Other than the housing, which ends on June 1st along with the cell phone, we are done covering for him. When he asked me yesterday to borrow the $10 for food I mentioned the food pantry. His response was that it was too cold to walk back from there carrying a crate of food. He isn't hungry.....yet. But he will be and that's when he will be forced to go back to the Salvation Army for a hot meal every day or walk to the food pantry for some ramen noodles. Lil is angry but more at herself because she didn't see this coming. I'm not angry, in fact I haven't been (other than the blowup at home last week, but we all know how trying a difficult child can be face to face) angry in a really long time. I'm disappointed and hurt and the sad thing is that I can't really figure out if its because of his actions or because I was expecting this. Granted, thought he'd work a bit longer than this, but when we did this I thought that IF he paid February then I would consider starting to allow myself to hope just a little bit. For the record, while I will admit to not knowing the extent, I'd be shocked to find out he wasn't doing drugs right now. The only reason he's quit spouting crap about legalization of pot to us is that we've told him that we don't want to hear it anymore. Don't get me wrong, our difficult child is MORE than capable of getting and holding a job, paying his bills, and living his life constructively. His major issue right now, possible DNA issues from BIO not withstanding, is that He Doesn't Want To! I cant make him want to and I'm not going to try. He has a roof over his head which has taken some stress off of Lil and he has time. What, if anything, he does with it is entirely up to him. Sorry folks but I'm tired of not having clean pants because I'm constantly pissing in the wind. [/QUOTE]
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