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<blockquote data-quote="Lil" data-source="post: 644461" data-attributes="member: 17309"><p>Well in my defense, I didn't actually have time to do anything I said I wouldn't do. He got fired within two working days of us telling him no rides. <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite11" alt=":rolleyes:" title="Roll Eyes :rolleyes:" loading="lazy" data-shortname=":rolleyes:" /></p><p> </p><p></p><p> </p><p>Yes. That's largely true. Partly it was so he could work nights and have a place to live/sleep in the days which was out because he was out of the shelter. If he'd been working days I wouldn't have been nearly as interested in doing so. But that he has shelter is good and it eases my mind and in the end, it's worth it to me. </p><p> </p><p></p><p> </p><p></p><p> </p><p>Really, why does it matter <em>what</em> is wrong with him? If he has Asperger's or ODD or any other number of diagnosis, does it change anything? He's not willing to admit there's a problem. He's not willing to take any medication. And Jabber's right...it would be an excuse. <em>"No one understands me because I have depression/Asperger's/whatever."</em> That's what we'd get. </p><p> </p><p></p><p> </p><p>Yeah, I was more "hope for the best but plan for the worst". I kept saying, "Let's just assume he'll pay it until he doesn't." That hasn't changed I suppose. It doesn't matter until it matters. </p><p> </p><p> </p><p> </p><p> Cedar, you aren't a know-it-all, but you are quite wise. <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite1" alt=":)" title="Smile :)" loading="lazy" data-shortname=":)" /></p><p> </p><p>Really though, I don't know that anything will help. I do plan to tell him in the next day or two that if he want's snow boots (which were to be a Christmas gift) that we will get them Saturday. While we're doing that I fully intend to tell him that we won't be giving him rides, we won't be buying him food or smokes, we won't be paying any bills, we won't be lending him DVD's. He can walk. He can go to the food pantry. He can quit smoking or bum from strangers. He can check out DVD's from the library. Furthermore, if he wants any of the above items instead of snow boots, he can't have them. His gift was boots. That's what I'm buying. </p><p> </p><p>Folks that's how done I am. He's got a roof over his head. He won't freeze. He may get hungry, but no one in this town ever starved to death. Heck, he's right across the street from a good restaurant...he can dumpster dive for all I care. </p><p> </p><p>I'm not angry...not really. I am, as always, so freaking disappointed. But I think I'm past anger. I actually don't think I have it in me anymore to be mad at him. Just kind of sad. <img src="/community/styles/default/xenforo/smilies/emoticons/sigh.gif" class="smilie" loading="lazy" alt=":sigh:" title="sigh :sigh:" data-shortname=":sigh:" /></p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Lil, post: 644461, member: 17309"] Well in my defense, I didn't actually have time to do anything I said I wouldn't do. He got fired within two working days of us telling him no rides. :rolleyes: Yes. That's largely true. Partly it was so he could work nights and have a place to live/sleep in the days which was out because he was out of the shelter. If he'd been working days I wouldn't have been nearly as interested in doing so. But that he has shelter is good and it eases my mind and in the end, it's worth it to me. Really, why does it matter [I]what[/I] is wrong with him? If he has Asperger's or ODD or any other number of diagnosis, does it change anything? He's not willing to admit there's a problem. He's not willing to take any medication. And Jabber's right...it would be an excuse. [I]"No one understands me because I have depression/Asperger's/whatever."[/I] That's what we'd get. Yeah, I was more "hope for the best but plan for the worst". I kept saying, "Let's just assume he'll pay it until he doesn't." That hasn't changed I suppose. It doesn't matter until it matters. Cedar, you aren't a know-it-all, but you are quite wise. :) Really though, I don't know that anything will help. I do plan to tell him in the next day or two that if he want's snow boots (which were to be a Christmas gift) that we will get them Saturday. While we're doing that I fully intend to tell him that we won't be giving him rides, we won't be buying him food or smokes, we won't be paying any bills, we won't be lending him DVD's. He can walk. He can go to the food pantry. He can quit smoking or bum from strangers. He can check out DVD's from the library. Furthermore, if he wants any of the above items instead of snow boots, he can't have them. His gift was boots. That's what I'm buying. Folks that's how done I am. He's got a roof over his head. He won't freeze. He may get hungry, but no one in this town ever starved to death. Heck, he's right across the street from a good restaurant...he can dumpster dive for all I care. I'm not angry...not really. I am, as always, so freaking disappointed. But I think I'm past anger. I actually don't think I have it in me anymore to be mad at him. Just kind of sad. :sigh: [/QUOTE]
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