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<blockquote data-quote="Scent of Cedar *" data-source="post: 644846" data-attributes="member: 17461"><p>That is what I meant. That issue of our vulnerability to the kinds of lives our children choose. We are vulnerable too, even if we are the ones who made them leave. We are as vulnerable, we suffer as deeply as they do, when they are not safe. We are equally as vulnerable when we know things are not right, but we do not take a stand. Then the kids will drag the awful things they are doing right into our homes, right into their childhood bedrooms. </p><p></p><p>Right into the sacred places, the places where we read them stories and kissed them goodnight and loved them the most.</p><p></p><p>That happened to us.</p><p></p><p>How dare they, right?</p><p></p><p>It is so strengthening to laugh, to be able to draw away from the rottenness of what is happening to us. What is happening to our kids ~ especially for the younger moms, when there is still every chance that this could all end well~ these times in our lives are living, breathing nightmares. </p><p></p><p>But there was a truth in that initial posting of mine.</p><p></p><p>It isn't that the kids have no homes, exactly, that is breaking our hearts and spirits, because they did what they did to be told to leave them. It isn't that the kids will be cold or hungry, exactly, either.</p><p></p><p>These issues are so confusing for us because they point out the desperation of our positions. </p><p></p><p>Everything we do, everything we feel about our children and what they do and where they go and who they might have been instead ~ those things are the layers covering the heart of the issue. The heart of the issue is that mothers are vulnerable, vulnerable on every level of loving and being and even, of self, to the lives and the happiness of their children. (I think fathers see this differently.)</p><p></p><p>But ultimately, that vulnerability that is so much a part of who we are that we cannot even see it is a choice. There is something too in that story about the mother's choice not to be vulnerable to her child's fate making the child stronger.</p><p></p><p>Cedar</p><p></p><p>Lil, you may put your skirts down, now.</p><p></p><p>:O)</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Scent of Cedar *, post: 644846, member: 17461"] That is what I meant. That issue of our vulnerability to the kinds of lives our children choose. We are vulnerable too, even if we are the ones who made them leave. We are as vulnerable, we suffer as deeply as they do, when they are not safe. We are equally as vulnerable when we know things are not right, but we do not take a stand. Then the kids will drag the awful things they are doing right into our homes, right into their childhood bedrooms. Right into the sacred places, the places where we read them stories and kissed them goodnight and loved them the most. That happened to us. How dare they, right? It is so strengthening to laugh, to be able to draw away from the rottenness of what is happening to us. What is happening to our kids ~ especially for the younger moms, when there is still every chance that this could all end well~ these times in our lives are living, breathing nightmares. But there was a truth in that initial posting of mine. It isn't that the kids have no homes, exactly, that is breaking our hearts and spirits, because they did what they did to be told to leave them. It isn't that the kids will be cold or hungry, exactly, either. These issues are so confusing for us because they point out the desperation of our positions. Everything we do, everything we feel about our children and what they do and where they go and who they might have been instead ~ those things are the layers covering the heart of the issue. The heart of the issue is that mothers are vulnerable, vulnerable on every level of loving and being and even, of self, to the lives and the happiness of their children. (I think fathers see this differently.) But ultimately, that vulnerability that is so much a part of who we are that we cannot even see it is a choice. There is something too in that story about the mother's choice not to be vulnerable to her child's fate making the child stronger. Cedar Lil, you may put your skirts down, now. :O) [/QUOTE]
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