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<blockquote data-quote="WSM" data-source="post: 251783" data-attributes="member: 5169"><p>I don't know if we are going to do much about the school. We don't have many alternatives; we are afraid to put him into the public school until we are sure he isn't going to provocatively take another weapon to school all while pretending it was 'planted' on him. It's worked 4 times before, or so it seems to him, and it's worth a lot of excitement and attention--but if he does it again it's automatic juvenile detention for him. </p><p> </p><p>We don't think this school will call the police if he brings a knife or other banned substance to school--they won't want to lose the $2,100 a month the state pays them for an easy to manage student.</p><p> </p><p>They think I'm a cold rejecting stepmother and my husband is an indifferent and harsh father and this poor little boy is starving for affection and attention and only does this stuff because he's desperately acting out. When they talk to him, he says, he doesn't like me and wants to do things alone with his dad, for his dad to take him places alone, etc...</p><p> </p><p>When his dad does these thing, difficult child later sabotages the effort. </p><p> </p><p>difficult child earned a 3 week summer wilderness camp with these latest stunts. husband was waffling ("It's so hot in middle Florida in the summer"), but now husband just wants a break. He said: "I've been dealing with this for seven years now; I just need a break".</p><p> </p><p>We are hoping to have him put in the public school district's alternative school for behavioral problems. It's strict, there are lots of therapeutic resources, and they will watch him closely. He qualifies because he was supposed to be mandatorily expelled with any of his four weapons in school charges. But the school has to refer students, and his old school also felt/feels very sorry for him and thinks the alternative school is 'horrible and nasty' and won't. My husband is thinking of appealling to the District Superintendant. </p><p> </p><p>The military school is not well run. The people are well intentioned, but are dealing with a different demographic--almost all the other families are on welfare, for example--so when the school is cancelled at the last minute, or sends students home early it's not a crisis as it is in our house. The other parents are not educated as we are, and look to the staff as saviors--we are pretty dom sceptical, better educated, and don't take the staff recommendations as word of God. The staff resents that.</p><p> </p><p>They want our money tho, and we want a safe place to put difficult child until we can find something else. He belongs in an Residential Treatment Center (RTC) but we can't afford more than about $300 a month and there are none that cost only that. None.</p><p> </p><p>Because difficult child is so good at conning people into feeling sorry for him, we can't get any interest in the officials to help us place him. They keep trying to tell us all difficult child needs is to spend some special time alone with his dad--and we keep telling them when that happens, difficult child sabotages it. </p><p> </p><p>It seems NOBODY will listen to us. This kid is a master manipulator.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="WSM, post: 251783, member: 5169"] I don't know if we are going to do much about the school. We don't have many alternatives; we are afraid to put him into the public school until we are sure he isn't going to provocatively take another weapon to school all while pretending it was 'planted' on him. It's worked 4 times before, or so it seems to him, and it's worth a lot of excitement and attention--but if he does it again it's automatic juvenile detention for him. We don't think this school will call the police if he brings a knife or other banned substance to school--they won't want to lose the $2,100 a month the state pays them for an easy to manage student. They think I'm a cold rejecting stepmother and my husband is an indifferent and harsh father and this poor little boy is starving for affection and attention and only does this stuff because he's desperately acting out. When they talk to him, he says, he doesn't like me and wants to do things alone with his dad, for his dad to take him places alone, etc... When his dad does these thing, difficult child later sabotages the effort. difficult child earned a 3 week summer wilderness camp with these latest stunts. husband was waffling ("It's so hot in middle Florida in the summer"), but now husband just wants a break. He said: "I've been dealing with this for seven years now; I just need a break". We are hoping to have him put in the public school district's alternative school for behavioral problems. It's strict, there are lots of therapeutic resources, and they will watch him closely. He qualifies because he was supposed to be mandatorily expelled with any of his four weapons in school charges. But the school has to refer students, and his old school also felt/feels very sorry for him and thinks the alternative school is 'horrible and nasty' and won't. My husband is thinking of appealling to the District Superintendant. The military school is not well run. The people are well intentioned, but are dealing with a different demographic--almost all the other families are on welfare, for example--so when the school is cancelled at the last minute, or sends students home early it's not a crisis as it is in our house. The other parents are not educated as we are, and look to the staff as saviors--we are pretty dom sceptical, better educated, and don't take the staff recommendations as word of God. The staff resents that. They want our money tho, and we want a safe place to put difficult child until we can find something else. He belongs in an Residential Treatment Center (RTC) but we can't afford more than about $300 a month and there are none that cost only that. None. Because difficult child is so good at conning people into feeling sorry for him, we can't get any interest in the officials to help us place him. They keep trying to tell us all difficult child needs is to spend some special time alone with his dad--and we keep telling them when that happens, difficult child sabotages it. It seems NOBODY will listen to us. This kid is a master manipulator. [/QUOTE]
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