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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 710483" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>My opinion? He is a drug addict. A lot of people have anxiety and depression (i have all my life) and at 27 I was out of the house, working, taking care of my kids. How long are you going to take care of him? None of us can live forever....</p><p></p><p>He is on so much prescribed and non prescribed medication no wonder all he does is sleep and do nothing productive. But he is 27. Is your plan to mother him until you die?</p><p></p><p>I have a few really good books that helped me. One is Boundaries by Townstead and Cloud. It has a Christian slant but you can skip that part if it does not apply to you and the rest is still great. The other is Codrpendent No More be Melody Beattie. Do you know you are codependent? Most of us are or were. It is unhealthy for both us snd for those we believe we can fix. In truth, we can.only fix one person....ourselves.</p><p></p><p>Are you with a SO? If so do both of you agree that letting him act this way on your dime is the best way? Not working? Not doing anything adults his age do? Not even trying? Not trying to bond with his own child???? If it were me he would be feeding, changing and spending time with his baby. He wanted custody. Well? Shame on him. Im sorry, but that is how I feel. </p><p></p><p>Grandchilds mother has one huge mental health issue...heroin addiction. If she got sober she very well may be able to take care of the kids. Thats the big problem. You are nicer han me. I woulsnt take a child to see heroin addicted mother. That doesnt mean its a bad idea; i just wouldnt do it personally.</p><p></p><p>Hugs, light and love. You can do this. You can set boundaries in your own house.</p><p></p><p>P.S.--Adderrall is greatly abused...crushed and snorted. It is worth a lot on the street. My kid abused ADHD drugs and others once. in my opinion he is using it abusively, maybe snorting it. It is heavy duty speed.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 710483, member: 1550"] My opinion? He is a drug addict. A lot of people have anxiety and depression (i have all my life) and at 27 I was out of the house, working, taking care of my kids. How long are you going to take care of him? None of us can live forever.... He is on so much prescribed and non prescribed medication no wonder all he does is sleep and do nothing productive. But he is 27. Is your plan to mother him until you die? I have a few really good books that helped me. One is Boundaries by Townstead and Cloud. It has a Christian slant but you can skip that part if it does not apply to you and the rest is still great. The other is Codrpendent No More be Melody Beattie. Do you know you are codependent? Most of us are or were. It is unhealthy for both us snd for those we believe we can fix. In truth, we can.only fix one person....ourselves. Are you with a SO? If so do both of you agree that letting him act this way on your dime is the best way? Not working? Not doing anything adults his age do? Not even trying? Not trying to bond with his own child???? If it were me he would be feeding, changing and spending time with his baby. He wanted custody. Well? Shame on him. Im sorry, but that is how I feel. Grandchilds mother has one huge mental health issue...heroin addiction. If she got sober she very well may be able to take care of the kids. Thats the big problem. You are nicer han me. I woulsnt take a child to see heroin addicted mother. That doesnt mean its a bad idea; i just wouldnt do it personally. Hugs, light and love. You can do this. You can set boundaries in your own house. P.S.--Adderrall is greatly abused...crushed and snorted. It is worth a lot on the street. My kid abused ADHD drugs and others once. in my opinion he is using it abusively, maybe snorting it. It is heavy duty speed. [/QUOTE]
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