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<blockquote data-quote="dreamer" data-source="post: 141146" data-attributes="member: 1697"><p>I am thinking at the moment that when we have certain experiences in our life, we start to notice similar things - become more aware of them- happening around us. My kids and I noticed that when we got a different car, we suddenly became far more aware of the same model car all around us, as if suddenly the whole town also all now drove the same model car as us.....well, of course they DIDN'T allbegin to drive same car, we were just MORE aware of that model car. </p><p>Violence jumps out at me -----my fav uncle shot and killed my fav aunt when I was a teen. The same week, my girlfriend s boyfriend and her were high and doing a s e x game, and he started her on fire, and she died. My father stalked and abused my mom, and I had my own stalker who was quite violent for years (until he died) Now, I am far more aware of violence around me. It hits me harder than it might hit others I know. Even violent incidents that are not necessarily intentional (like a few weeks ago, the expolsion at the shopping center where I was near at a stop light when it blew) This was around the same time a neighbor killed his infant, and shortly after Tinley Park Lane Bryant shootings and NIU....both which also did touch my personal life.....NONE of these things affected my immediate family, BUT, I am hyper aware of these incidents, and yes, they were right there in my face touching my life. I felt pesonally attacked, almost, I certainly felt quite threatened. My previous experiences caused me to be more aware of such things. ANd to be more than commonly affected by them. </p><p></p><p>Fran is talking about being an illness magnet....I also feel like one, often. Again I am sure it is becuz the extra ordinarily large number of very very close people to me who have had to cope with major illnesses, including me, my husband, 2 of my kids and so many of my best friends over the years, beginning in childhood. Now I seem to be far more aware of the illnesses the people in my circle of people deal with. AM I a magnet? Maybe...and I am sure my jobs have also drawn me more to illness/disability, BUT.....I think, too, when you are with people, if you mention some thing, some illness or incident etc..then other people open up more and talk more about some of these things, where as if the subject was never brought up, the same people with those issues and experiences might not mention them to you otherwise. </p><p></p><p>I am so sorry for your pain. I continue to keep you and your family in my thoughts and prayers.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="dreamer, post: 141146, member: 1697"] I am thinking at the moment that when we have certain experiences in our life, we start to notice similar things - become more aware of them- happening around us. My kids and I noticed that when we got a different car, we suddenly became far more aware of the same model car all around us, as if suddenly the whole town also all now drove the same model car as us.....well, of course they DIDN'T allbegin to drive same car, we were just MORE aware of that model car. Violence jumps out at me -----my fav uncle shot and killed my fav aunt when I was a teen. The same week, my girlfriend s boyfriend and her were high and doing a s e x game, and he started her on fire, and she died. My father stalked and abused my mom, and I had my own stalker who was quite violent for years (until he died) Now, I am far more aware of violence around me. It hits me harder than it might hit others I know. Even violent incidents that are not necessarily intentional (like a few weeks ago, the expolsion at the shopping center where I was near at a stop light when it blew) This was around the same time a neighbor killed his infant, and shortly after Tinley Park Lane Bryant shootings and NIU....both which also did touch my personal life.....NONE of these things affected my immediate family, BUT, I am hyper aware of these incidents, and yes, they were right there in my face touching my life. I felt pesonally attacked, almost, I certainly felt quite threatened. My previous experiences caused me to be more aware of such things. ANd to be more than commonly affected by them. Fran is talking about being an illness magnet....I also feel like one, often. Again I am sure it is becuz the extra ordinarily large number of very very close people to me who have had to cope with major illnesses, including me, my husband, 2 of my kids and so many of my best friends over the years, beginning in childhood. Now I seem to be far more aware of the illnesses the people in my circle of people deal with. AM I a magnet? Maybe...and I am sure my jobs have also drawn me more to illness/disability, BUT.....I think, too, when you are with people, if you mention some thing, some illness or incident etc..then other people open up more and talk more about some of these things, where as if the subject was never brought up, the same people with those issues and experiences might not mention them to you otherwise. I am so sorry for your pain. I continue to keep you and your family in my thoughts and prayers. [/QUOTE]
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