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The wall, and thoughts on voc. ed counseling?
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<blockquote data-quote="susiestar" data-source="post: 525246" data-attributes="member: 1233"><p>It might help if you read up on fear of success. in my opinion that is a big part of thank you and many of our difficult children. I don't know if it would help for him to read it, or if he would, but it could help you understand him. if you succeed then there is pressure to do more and better, and that is terrifying for some of us and our kids. if you fail, no one expects much of you.</p><p></p><p>if you type 'fear of success' into the search box on amazon and select books as the area to search, quite a few titles come up. it might help you understand how to reach him.</p><p></p><p>the military sounds like a good option for him. He also needs some success now. get him to get out of the house and do some volunteer work. for a lot of people, working with an animal shelter is very helpful. he could go and walk or play with dogs and they would love it and he would know he is helping. or he could do a lot of other things because just about every other group on the planet needs help right now. volunteers of america have great resources as far as job coaches and they also have lots of opportunities for volunteer work. often some volunteer work is helpful to making connections to get a job and to show you are willing to work. </p><p></p><p>i hope that you can help him get onto a path that will be satisfying for him. if he is going military, please have him start training for the physical parts of the job - they can be very discouraging if you are not prepared for them.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="susiestar, post: 525246, member: 1233"] It might help if you read up on fear of success. in my opinion that is a big part of thank you and many of our difficult children. I don't know if it would help for him to read it, or if he would, but it could help you understand him. if you succeed then there is pressure to do more and better, and that is terrifying for some of us and our kids. if you fail, no one expects much of you. if you type 'fear of success' into the search box on amazon and select books as the area to search, quite a few titles come up. it might help you understand how to reach him. the military sounds like a good option for him. He also needs some success now. get him to get out of the house and do some volunteer work. for a lot of people, working with an animal shelter is very helpful. he could go and walk or play with dogs and they would love it and he would know he is helping. or he could do a lot of other things because just about every other group on the planet needs help right now. volunteers of america have great resources as far as job coaches and they also have lots of opportunities for volunteer work. often some volunteer work is helpful to making connections to get a job and to show you are willing to work. i hope that you can help him get onto a path that will be satisfying for him. if he is going military, please have him start training for the physical parts of the job - they can be very discouraging if you are not prepared for them. [/QUOTE]
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