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The week of difficult child's birthday---in middle of it
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<blockquote data-quote="Echolette" data-source="post: 631781" data-attributes="member: 17269"><p>Ah, I thought of you all day yestarday.</p><p>I am so glad to hear that things went well. </p><p></p><p></p><p></p><p>That would have been hard. I'm glad easy child did it for you. </p><p></p><p></p><p></p><p>Yes. One new rule for me has been that if some one (anyone! other than my boss of course...) asks me a question or a favor that involves me having to do research (google, phone calls, anything)...I say no. Because you know what? I COULD learn all about it (what apartments are available, what the hours of the social security office are, how to enroll at community college) and share my knowledge ...or ...the person who needs the info can become the expert and own the knowledge. So as soon as I find myself about to search on google...I stop. </p><p></p><p></p><p></p><p>This is where we all fall down. Getting hopeful, watching closely, trying to read the signs, as though where he is at this moment has any meaning..it doesn't. It is where he is over long periods of time that has meaning. But I do the same. I can't stop. Unless there is no contact. </p><p></p><p></p><p> </p><p>Yes Child, in my mind this is a defining philosopy for you, and so helpful, so true. </p><p></p><p>I am taking a class in mindful listening and speaking..one of the basic tenets is that before engaging with some one, anyone, take 30 seconds to take them in..really look at them, feel their mood, their posture, their skin tone. Feel who they are, breath, engage..and then speak. Taking one's time with everything is good. Always.</p><p></p><p>I'm glad this milestone has come and gone in what sounds like, honestly, a bittersweet manner. It sounds like you remained true to yourself. That is all we can do.</p><p></p><p>Hugs to you today, Mom,</p><p></p><p>Echo</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Echolette, post: 631781, member: 17269"] Ah, I thought of you all day yestarday. I am so glad to hear that things went well. That would have been hard. I'm glad easy child did it for you. Yes. One new rule for me has been that if some one (anyone! other than my boss of course...) asks me a question or a favor that involves me having to do research (google, phone calls, anything)...I say no. Because you know what? I COULD learn all about it (what apartments are available, what the hours of the social security office are, how to enroll at community college) and share my knowledge ...or ...the person who needs the info can become the expert and own the knowledge. So as soon as I find myself about to search on google...I stop. This is where we all fall down. Getting hopeful, watching closely, trying to read the signs, as though where he is at this moment has any meaning..it doesn't. It is where he is over long periods of time that has meaning. But I do the same. I can't stop. Unless there is no contact. Yes Child, in my mind this is a defining philosopy for you, and so helpful, so true. I am taking a class in mindful listening and speaking..one of the basic tenets is that before engaging with some one, anyone, take 30 seconds to take them in..really look at them, feel their mood, their posture, their skin tone. Feel who they are, breath, engage..and then speak. Taking one's time with everything is good. Always. I'm glad this milestone has come and gone in what sounds like, honestly, a bittersweet manner. It sounds like you remained true to yourself. That is all we can do. Hugs to you today, Mom, Echo [/QUOTE]
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