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The x - Dude and the first phone call /13 years
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<blockquote data-quote="lovemysons" data-source="post: 263321" data-attributes="member: 3305"><p>Wow Star, </p><p></p><p>That's pretty heavy emotional stuff to go through...I know. </p><p>I talked to and met my bio dad for the first time when I was 17...he too is an alcoholic and a very self absorbed man. He too wanted it to be "water under the bridge", actually said, "Lets forget the past". But see...that PAST was ME. I had lived all those years in pain without a daddy. I was the freak in class when "what does your dad do?" and I said, "I don't have a dad" and the class looked at me like I was from mars. </p><p></p><p>Within a year after meeting my bio dad...I tried to kill myself. Too much pain had resurfaced in a big way and I was not handling it well at all. </p><p>Just as a cautionary, watch for signs of depression in Dude. These encounters with our loser bio dad's can be overwhelming emotionally. </p><p></p><p>Hugs to both of you...I do hope dude can truly accept and move on from here. It's alot of pain to know how little you've meant to a "parent" along the way, that it's alll about them and "their problems". </p><p>And I know that Mamma carry's alot of guilt and pain too...my mom certainly did. Even a few weeks ago I heard my mom say..."If only I hadn't married (his name)". She's 60 and still carry's a level of guilt. But, she also has always told me that I was meant to be, that THAT had to be the only reason she got involved with that man was to make me. </p><p></p><p>Thank G-d for a Mother's Love</p><p>Hugs and love to you both, </p><p>Tammy</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="lovemysons, post: 263321, member: 3305"] Wow Star, That's pretty heavy emotional stuff to go through...I know. I talked to and met my bio dad for the first time when I was 17...he too is an alcoholic and a very self absorbed man. He too wanted it to be "water under the bridge", actually said, "Lets forget the past". But see...that PAST was ME. I had lived all those years in pain without a daddy. I was the freak in class when "what does your dad do?" and I said, "I don't have a dad" and the class looked at me like I was from mars. Within a year after meeting my bio dad...I tried to kill myself. Too much pain had resurfaced in a big way and I was not handling it well at all. Just as a cautionary, watch for signs of depression in Dude. These encounters with our loser bio dad's can be overwhelming emotionally. Hugs to both of you...I do hope dude can truly accept and move on from here. It's alot of pain to know how little you've meant to a "parent" along the way, that it's alll about them and "their problems". And I know that Mamma carry's alot of guilt and pain too...my mom certainly did. Even a few weeks ago I heard my mom say..."If only I hadn't married (his name)". She's 60 and still carry's a level of guilt. But, she also has always told me that I was meant to be, that THAT had to be the only reason she got involved with that man was to make me. Thank G-d for a Mother's Love Hugs and love to you both, Tammy [/QUOTE]
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