It was pretty much decided today that the school is gunning for a change to a therapeutic school. the SW says she's afraid of another attack from difficult child and feels that they aren't equipped to handle her. Acedemically, she's in the right placement. They are going to look into to see if there's a way to keep her here 1/2 time and send her to a therapeutic for the other half. But I'm almost positive that as of the end of the year they'll place her permanantly in another location. I couldn't help the tears. I knew as soon as I sat down in the room that this meeting would go this way. 2 weeks ago they all thought she was fine where she was and didn't change much. Now, because she kicked the gym teacher they feel otherwise. As for my rant. My difficult child is so unique that I can't compare her to anyone. On the outside she seems to be just a regular 11 year old pre teen. NO ONE knows what's on the inside. Not even me sometimes. All I kept hearing is that this team wanted to know what was going on in her head. What is she thinking? Why is she thinking that? How come she does that when she knows better? She fits every category of Special Education eligibility and was changed from OHI to MI 2 weeks ago. Truth is we'll never know what's on the inside of her but 99% of the people don't look farther than the outside anyway. All they see is an 11 year old who can't control herself. Who knows right from wrong and insists on doing wrong. It's all the parent fault! My mother in law talked to husband and said that we're doing things wrong. We're not disciplining right. We're not medicating her right. It's all in how WE are handing things that she's this way. The school just keeps saying they're trying to figure her out so she has a better future. The risk assessment says she needs anger management. The neurophych say's she's an 11 year old body with a 7 year old mentality who exhibits Pervasive Developmental Disorder (PDD)-like thinking and reasoning who just wants to be liked and play with friends. So what in the heck is a parent to do when faced with all these "knowledgeable" people who know "best" for my child? I couldn't function the last 30 minutes of the meeting. Tears are running down my face. I made it home before the sobs erupted. I just can't handle this anymore and want to give up. I made an appointment with- my doctor and I know I'll come out with heavy duty medications. I can't stop crying and I can't stop shaking. and the funny thing here is that I actually think this therapeutic school might be ok for her. So why am I so upset and can't calm down? Here's some questions....So how can I make sure I get her in the right school? How well do they cover acedemics? What's the counseling etc really like at these places? Does difficult child need outside behavior mod?