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<blockquote data-quote="susiestar" data-source="post: 244179" data-attributes="member: 1233"><p>I found keeping a log of what was going on VERY helpful with the docs. you can download mood charts and then customize them to fit you, or just use a notebook. Whatever works. But keep track of EVERYTHING.</p><p></p><p>Then go sit down in a 1:1 session with the therapist and say, "Hey, I need you to deal with this. Not past stuff, not difficult child's twisted perceptions, but the reality of now, like how he tried to attack me as I was headed for the stairs. If he had hit me wrong with the pillow on the stairs I could have fallen. Then difficult child would REALLY be up a tree. Please help us."</p><p></p><p>And see how he reacts. If he is willing to help he will, if not, then you will know. it may take going through old posts here from the last few weeks, or taking a few weeks to record things.</p><p></p><p>When you are ready to talk to the therapist, condense your notes into what difficult child said/did, triggers, what you did, how your relationship is with him other times, include some fun/funny/happy things (if you can), and include husband's reluctance/refusal to see the problems because he isn't always there when they happen.</p><p></p><p>You also might consider a nannycam. To record what goes on and let them SEE what he says/does.</p><p></p><p>Sorry it is so rough. Often our difficult children only show us moms the problems because they KNOW we will always love them and fight for them and they just are not as sure about dads.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="susiestar, post: 244179, member: 1233"] I found keeping a log of what was going on VERY helpful with the docs. you can download mood charts and then customize them to fit you, or just use a notebook. Whatever works. But keep track of EVERYTHING. Then go sit down in a 1:1 session with the therapist and say, "Hey, I need you to deal with this. Not past stuff, not difficult child's twisted perceptions, but the reality of now, like how he tried to attack me as I was headed for the stairs. If he had hit me wrong with the pillow on the stairs I could have fallen. Then difficult child would REALLY be up a tree. Please help us." And see how he reacts. If he is willing to help he will, if not, then you will know. it may take going through old posts here from the last few weeks, or taking a few weeks to record things. When you are ready to talk to the therapist, condense your notes into what difficult child said/did, triggers, what you did, how your relationship is with him other times, include some fun/funny/happy things (if you can), and include husband's reluctance/refusal to see the problems because he isn't always there when they happen. You also might consider a nannycam. To record what goes on and let them SEE what he says/does. Sorry it is so rough. Often our difficult children only show us moms the problems because they KNOW we will always love them and fight for them and they just are not as sure about dads. [/QUOTE]
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