About half way through the appointment, the therapist came out and asked me to come in. I really wish I had some warning that this was going to happen. The therapist started with "it's obvious you each love each other very much, you just have problems communicating it". Then she asked me how I like my kids to show me that they care about me. I wanted to say...how about not always telling me I'm a horrible mother and blah, blah, blah. But, I didn't. I told her that I knew that difficult child loves me, but that she and I see the world in different ways. difficult child is a pessimist. I'm an optimist. Anyway, she continues. And then..... difficult child said OUT LOUD that she doesn't like authority. I gave the therapist a, now you see what I'm dealing with, kinda look. So, it went on and she got to see us in action. The way our conversations go, with difficult child constantly interrupting me, negating everything I say. With me, saying, "For God's sake, difficult child", in exasperation. All of it. The good, the bad and the ugly. Gee. Can't wait for next week. I did make a point to say that I want a rule that what we talk about in therapy and any feelings it brings up, stays in that office when we leave. I don't want to spend the night after an appointment rehashing it. Because difficult child is like a pit bull with these things and she will. not. let. it. go. So far, so good. I'm exhausted. I really wish I had had warning, though. I've not met with the therapist without difficult child, so she doesn't know how easy it is to set her off.