for me has been really good. just had to share that since everyone kept screaming Jen go go go!! LOL so.......... Jen went. she's awesome ashame i can't bring her back with-me. we've connected my childhood with some of my parenting styles. reasons for etc. she's pulled out of me that it's my path to work with kids on some level just as i did before even if it hurts me i have to learn how to protect myself. she said that it's time for you to fly. difficult child needs to see that too so she can. deep i told her about the bipolar and medication thing. she got it yet said you have till sept to work thru all of that and when she goes back to school in sept you go do whatever it is fills your soul up with kids. even if it's just volunteering till you get the degree you need. we've gone down alot of roads in short period of time. that's how i know she's good. we laugh alot too. first day in went in there i said wow i've got alot going on lol cps, aspca, kid in new york losing it, husband who is clueless and annoying, difficult child in hospital. she said your fine more than fine your just really stressed. we gotta come up with plan for this weekend because dear old dad is coming to see difficult child. why I don't know. he owes us money towards the down payment to get her in, than the money to get here, than the money to stay at ronald mcdonald house, rental car, flites home. you get the picture. it's alot. yet he's spending money to spend time out here. we're all afraid doctor's involved and all the therapists on board because they've dealt with dad that he's really going to screw up this thing. so i'm headed back to therapy on friday morning to figure it out with her.