Hello everyone. I need some advice. My easy child son goes to school with a boy who is not yet diagnosis, but he is on his way to an ODD diagnosis. Sweet little guy, very busy and often inappropriate. He gets in trouble at school everyday, my son is in his class for the second year. I met him and his family last year when the kids were in Kindergarten. I became close with his grandmother, dont really care to much for his mom, but I tolerate her. She is a Special Education teacher for high school aged kids. So you would think that she would be totally prepared to parent a special needs child. Well that is not the case. The mom, grandma, the little boy and his baby sister all live with grandma's brother in a 2 bedroom apt. So they are very close and always together. The mom has befriended (if you could call it that) a few of her students who dont have such a great home life, they are also always with the family. She has even taken 2 of them on vacation. It sound like a nice gesture, sure, however if you knew them like I do you would see it is totally inappropriate!!! She curses at them, orders them around and has them babysit all the time. Back to the point: The mom and grandma treat this little boy horribly!!! Now I really believe from the grandma it is just total ignorance, however the mother should know better after all she does have a backround in psychology. They curse at him constantly, call him terrible names like: a**hole, idiot, stupid a**, moron and so on... They have so many different people repremanding this kid, most of the time it's the teenage students. They are screwing up this kid. It breaks my heart to see, this kid is a sweet child with alot of issues that his family is just making worse. His mother is too busy flirting with her students, (like I said before they are always with them) to pay any attention to her own kids. The only time I see her interact with her son is to smack him or yell at him for doing the smallest thing. They constantly yell at him, most of the time for absolutely nothing. It drives me nuts. I want so much to say something. You should here the mom talk about how she is the right person to parent a child like hers because she has the knowledge and knows how to handle it. It is sickening. She just got re-involved with the baby's father about a month ago. She allows her son to call him daddy and he also disciplines him and has even hit him.
I dont understand how she has a teaching job, if the SD she works for only knew what really goes on with her and her students she would not have a job at all. She massages these kids, they sit between her legs, she rubs their heads, she treats them like little boyfriends. It disgusts me to no end. The teenage boys act more like her kids parents than she does. So do I just mind my own business or do I say something? I really like the grandmother, she and I have become very close. I think she would be very insulted if I said anything and I dont want to ruin our friendship. What would you do?
I dont understand how she has a teaching job, if the SD she works for only knew what really goes on with her and her students she would not have a job at all. She massages these kids, they sit between her legs, she rubs their heads, she treats them like little boyfriends. It disgusts me to no end. The teenage boys act more like her kids parents than she does. So do I just mind my own business or do I say something? I really like the grandmother, she and I have become very close. I think she would be very insulted if I said anything and I dont want to ruin our friendship. What would you do?
