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<blockquote data-quote="meowbunny" data-source="post: 88250" data-attributes="member: 3626"><p><div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: standswithcourage</div><div class="ubbcode-body"> I did call the 15 year old mother and told her I did not blame her for turning them all in. I told her my son had no busiiness hanging around her son. I had told him that many times and tried to keep her son away from my son by telling him to leave my property and dont come back. </div></div></p><p></p><p></p><p>Do you see anything wrong with the above statements?</p><p></p><p>You should (1) be apologizing to that mother that your son was involved with her son at all and (2) praising her to high heavens for having the courage to admit her son was using drugs and trying to do something about it.</p><p></p><p>Why were you telling a 15 YO to stay off of your property rather than flat out telling your 24 YO son to stay away from a minor? Why didn't you call the boy's mother the first time you saw them hanging out together and warn her that your son had a drug problem and she needed to move heaven and earth to keep the two apart?</p><p></p><p>Do you truly not see that you make as many excuses for your son as your son does for using drugs? It needs to stop. You need to make your son 100% responsible for his behavior. Not thinking he is mentally incompetent -- of course he is: <strong>HE'S A JUNKIE</strong>!!!! Not blaming others for his use. Of course it's possible older kids got him started but at some point he began making the choice that using drugs was better than being straight!</p><p></p><p>The reality is your son had choices: use or not use. You had choices: support his usage or bring the wrath of God (or mom) down on him. He chose to use. You chose to support his addiction. Please stop making excuses for him. Please make him take care of this problem by himself. Let him learn how to be a man. That is your job as a mother -- not protect him from life and its consequences for the rest of his life but how to stand on his own two feet and make his own decisions. It's not easy but it can be done. </p><p></p><p>Write him a letter explaining you love him but it is time for him to handle his problems himself. Tell him that if you can, you will give him advice but nothing more than that. No money, no making calls for him, fighting the penal system to get him into programs, etc. He needs to deal with it all. He is 24 and is at least of average intelligence. He can do this if he has to.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="meowbunny, post: 88250, member: 3626"] <div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: standswithcourage</div><div class="ubbcode-body"> I did call the 15 year old mother and told her I did not blame her for turning them all in. I told her my son had no busiiness hanging around her son. I had told him that many times and tried to keep her son away from my son by telling him to leave my property and dont come back. </div></div> Do you see anything wrong with the above statements? You should (1) be apologizing to that mother that your son was involved with her son at all and (2) praising her to high heavens for having the courage to admit her son was using drugs and trying to do something about it. Why were you telling a 15 YO to stay off of your property rather than flat out telling your 24 YO son to stay away from a minor? Why didn't you call the boy's mother the first time you saw them hanging out together and warn her that your son had a drug problem and she needed to move heaven and earth to keep the two apart? Do you truly not see that you make as many excuses for your son as your son does for using drugs? It needs to stop. You need to make your son 100% responsible for his behavior. Not thinking he is mentally incompetent -- of course he is: [b]HE'S A JUNKIE[/b]!!!! Not blaming others for his use. Of course it's possible older kids got him started but at some point he began making the choice that using drugs was better than being straight! The reality is your son had choices: use or not use. You had choices: support his usage or bring the wrath of God (or mom) down on him. He chose to use. You chose to support his addiction. Please stop making excuses for him. Please make him take care of this problem by himself. Let him learn how to be a man. That is your job as a mother -- not protect him from life and its consequences for the rest of his life but how to stand on his own two feet and make his own decisions. It's not easy but it can be done. Write him a letter explaining you love him but it is time for him to handle his problems himself. Tell him that if you can, you will give him advice but nothing more than that. No money, no making calls for him, fighting the penal system to get him into programs, etc. He needs to deal with it all. He is 24 and is at least of average intelligence. He can do this if he has to. [/QUOTE]
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