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<blockquote data-quote="DDD" data-source="post: 46085" data-attributes="member: 35"><p>(If you feel particularly vulnerable right this minute do NOT</p><p>read this piece of advice. Wait until later.)</p><p></p><p>You can NOT cry or show your vulnerability in front of anyone.</p><p>Period. You have to present yourself as self-confident, very</p><p>knowedgeable, reasonable etc. etc. It is not easy. IF you have</p><p>made errors in judgement in the past that is ok...you just have</p><p>to state like an extremely mature adult "I realize that I could</p><p>have done a better job xxxx and am taking steps to improve my</p><p>parenting skills." </p><p></p><p>Yes, I know it is a bummer. on the other hand, you can not "beat" the system</p><p>no matter how illogical the actions may seem. You have to think</p><p>of it as a theater or movie role and play act how they want you to be. Truthfully, if you "act" a role long enough you can find</p><p>yourself making those choices etc. rather naturally. I do NOT</p><p>mean fake accents etc...lol. Just pretending you are a modern</p><p>June Cleaver, for example.</p><p></p><p>The bottom line is truthful. You LOVE your child. He NEEDS</p><p>you. You must adapt to make sure his best interests are the result of this action.</p><p></p><p>I have been a daily Mother since l960. Most people think I am</p><p>terrific. There are "still" times when I have to role play in</p><p>order to provide what my difficult children need. It is NOT a cop out. It is</p><p>a determined way to improve yourself for the sake of improving your childs life. Sending hugs. DDD</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="DDD, post: 46085, member: 35"] (If you feel particularly vulnerable right this minute do NOT read this piece of advice. Wait until later.) You can NOT cry or show your vulnerability in front of anyone. Period. You have to present yourself as self-confident, very knowedgeable, reasonable etc. etc. It is not easy. IF you have made errors in judgement in the past that is ok...you just have to state like an extremely mature adult "I realize that I could have done a better job xxxx and am taking steps to improve my parenting skills." Yes, I know it is a bummer. on the other hand, you can not "beat" the system no matter how illogical the actions may seem. You have to think of it as a theater or movie role and play act how they want you to be. Truthfully, if you "act" a role long enough you can find yourself making those choices etc. rather naturally. I do NOT mean fake accents etc...lol. Just pretending you are a modern June Cleaver, for example. The bottom line is truthful. You LOVE your child. He NEEDS you. You must adapt to make sure his best interests are the result of this action. I have been a daily Mother since l960. Most people think I am terrific. There are "still" times when I have to role play in order to provide what my difficult children need. It is NOT a cop out. It is a determined way to improve yourself for the sake of improving your childs life. Sending hugs. DDD [/QUOTE]
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