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<blockquote data-quote="klmno" data-source="post: 46097" data-attributes="member: 3699"><p>The psychiatrist told me to asked them what they think they could/would do differently. Of course, there are things I wish I'd noticed and handled differently as he's grown to 12 yo. But, I do not regret taking the break from therapy. We heard "I don't know what to do" a few times. we heard "so, how does it feel to know you're dad rejected you" and we heard "you need a good therapist..try this person" about one too many times. They didn't have the answers. That doesn't mean that I think none of them do- I went when I was in my early twenties and finally found the right one and it changed my life in a miracously way- I've taught my son that there is nothing wrong with it. I told him we were taking a break from it because it became overwhelming and was not providing us with effective answers at that time. I, personally, feel they didn't have the answers because he had suddenly starting acting out and acting different in general, which is why I was there, but we're still trying to nail down the diagnosis. I think the root of it is depression, which they had said, but how to deal with the way he-s handling it- all I know is that therapist's lectures about behaving himself did not, and will not, "cure it". </p><p></p><p>I'm a whole lot more worried about what damage is being done to him and how far backwards is this going to put him while the legal people and agencies are figuring out that there is no blood test to definetely determine what's wrong and what the right medications are. I have done what I thought was in the best interest of my difficult child- he is my world- there would be no other road for me to take.</p><p></p><p>I used the analogy with the attny today- some years ago everyone wondered why some kids didn't do well in school and the kids were frustrated because of it. when people started figuring out that some of these kids were autistic, some were dyslexic and it took different types of help to aid them, then the kids were able to suceed and live to their potentials. But, when it comes to emotional disturbances, or classified as other things- the sd and a lot of other people still want to classify them them as all "problem kids" and they are not getting help that is tailored to their individual problem- they are too busy blaming it on the parenting. They have difficulty diagnosis'ing bipolar and some other things this quickly, but these are real problems.</p><p></p><p>I'm just frustrated and hurt. I'll do my best to bite my toungue with people who want to tell me how to raise my child, when they don't even have a child, but I still feel I need to fight for him to get help- real help- not a show.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="klmno, post: 46097, member: 3699"] The psychiatrist told me to asked them what they think they could/would do differently. Of course, there are things I wish I'd noticed and handled differently as he's grown to 12 yo. But, I do not regret taking the break from therapy. We heard "I don't know what to do" a few times. we heard "so, how does it feel to know you're dad rejected you" and we heard "you need a good therapist..try this person" about one too many times. They didn't have the answers. That doesn't mean that I think none of them do- I went when I was in my early twenties and finally found the right one and it changed my life in a miracously way- I've taught my son that there is nothing wrong with it. I told him we were taking a break from it because it became overwhelming and was not providing us with effective answers at that time. I, personally, feel they didn't have the answers because he had suddenly starting acting out and acting different in general, which is why I was there, but we're still trying to nail down the diagnosis. I think the root of it is depression, which they had said, but how to deal with the way he-s handling it- all I know is that therapist's lectures about behaving himself did not, and will not, "cure it". I'm a whole lot more worried about what damage is being done to him and how far backwards is this going to put him while the legal people and agencies are figuring out that there is no blood test to definetely determine what's wrong and what the right medications are. I have done what I thought was in the best interest of my difficult child- he is my world- there would be no other road for me to take. I used the analogy with the attny today- some years ago everyone wondered why some kids didn't do well in school and the kids were frustrated because of it. when people started figuring out that some of these kids were autistic, some were dyslexic and it took different types of help to aid them, then the kids were able to suceed and live to their potentials. But, when it comes to emotional disturbances, or classified as other things- the sd and a lot of other people still want to classify them them as all "problem kids" and they are not getting help that is tailored to their individual problem- they are too busy blaming it on the parenting. They have difficulty diagnosis'ing bipolar and some other things this quickly, but these are real problems. I'm just frustrated and hurt. I'll do my best to bite my toungue with people who want to tell me how to raise my child, when they don't even have a child, but I still feel I need to fight for him to get help- real help- not a show. [/QUOTE]
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