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<blockquote data-quote="Hound dog" data-source="post: 389340" data-attributes="member: 84"><p>I dunno Susie, katie would be terrified over the kids in foster care (M grew up as a foster kid and told her many horror stories, true or not) she'd probably give them the family names. If not, I know Kayla and Alex would as the thought of going with strangers would scare them to death.</p><p></p><p>husband just got back. </p><p></p><p>And my brain has had a chance to recoop after this afternoons chaos.</p><p></p><p> Katie attempted a few guilt trips which I promptly nipped in the bud. She started in about how she doesn't know what to do about the kids and school since she'll keep calling the nearby shelters for openings........and she feels so bad about yanking them in and out.......This was supposed to make Nana feel like an ogre for sending them to dayon. Instead.........I told her to svck it up. Kayla will be held back this year (2nd time) due to all the moving around. She might as well face the fact and stop worrying about it. Told her she has no choice so get over it. Alex doesn't matter as he's Special Education and does his own program anyway. </p><p></p><p>Then she said she felt terrible because her mom called her last night and reamed her a new one over not having jobs and a place to live yet. Then evidently Kayla started in on both her parents as it's all their fault they have to go back to the shelter. Katie said it hurt so much to hear her say that. I said then you tell her to make sure she graduates, goes to college, then gets married, then has children........so she doesn't wind up in the same position as an adult.</p><p></p><p>Oh, and katie was sooooo worried about the wk evaluation thing. I told her the only reason they'd boot them out is if they don't work the program. In other words, calling me with some lame excuse of why you got booted is not going to make me come running.</p><p></p><p>Katie shut up. That was the last attempt at a guilt trip. </p><p></p><p>Then M started in how he was gonna get a job and ask for day passes to rent motel rooms for a night or two......take the kids to Mc Donalds when the shelter didn't make what they wanted to eat.....yadda yadda..........I'd had it up to here by then *hand held above head* And shot back with Gee, don't you think you might want to save the money to put a roof over their head first? Idiot.<img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite4" alt=":mad:" title="Mad :mad:" loading="lazy" data-shortname=":mad:" /></p><p></p><p>That wasn't enough. Then once kayla starts getting really upset about going (she's scared to death) M tells her to not worry he didn't take her out of harms way in St Louis to put her back into it again. Excuse me?? I had to seriously bite my tongue on that one. I did so only because the grands would hear what I had to say and it would not have been put tactfully. It's because of him that they're sitting in dayton tonight. Omg I wanted to knock the snot right out of him.</p><p></p><p>Oh, and Alex was nearly hysteric by noon today. His teacher called from the school. To help him calm down she bought pizza for the two of them to eat lunch together. She'd called because she'd given Alex her phone number and address so he could keep in contact and she wanted to make sure it was ok with katie. She also sent home with him tons of school supplies, the rest of the pizza, candy, a book given to him by his classmates as a goodbye present all signed by them. She adores Alex and says he's been an utter joy to have in class and that she's going to miss him terribly.</p><p></p><p>Mean of me.........but I saw that it hurt katie to be taking him away from that, and I thought let's keep piling it on until she gets it.</p><p></p><p>At the shelter no one bothered to thank husband for the ride except kayla.........who also gave him a hug and a kiss for each of us and whispered in his ear she knew it wasn't our fault. That little girl has seen and lived through too much already.</p><p></p><p>Most of katie's problem is she wants to hide instead of work for the change. She wants someone to fix it for her. She wants someone to tell her what to do, when to do it, and how to do it. She has to learn to stand up for herself and those kids. She has to learn that grownups have to work, and work hard, for what they want and need in life. Katie has got to get so furious with M that she can find the strength to throw off the victim mentality forever. I hope the shelter runs them ragged, hounds them relentlessly. Awful........but probably the only way they're going to open the girls eyes to reality. There are moments when I see the fire in her eyes..........then she goes back to her comfort zone and it goes out again. *sigh*</p><p></p><p>I don't feel the least bit guilty. My heart aches for the grands, they sure got the bums rush when it came to parents......and they've already had it so hard it's so unfair to them. If kayla is held back it will be the 2nd time due to all the moves. Poor Alex is regressing terribly because he has to keep adjusting to new environments/teachers ect and he just does not do that well. Poor lil guy absolutely loved it at this school and was the 1st time she didn't have to fight him to go. And Evan.......... I taught him to count to 3 today using 3 pennies. (an effort to keep him from destroying the house and driving me nuts) The boy is 5 yrs old. He just today learned to count to 3. He was soaking up the attention like a sponge. And he likes Nana attention because I don't treat him like a baby. Makes me sad.</p><p></p><p>I'll take them on if I have no choice. But I won't be over eager as it would mean still being in constant contact with M. ugh (shoot me now) Although I think if they lost custody and had no hopes of getting them back he'd vanish out of the picture. They're his meal ticket, if not a meal ticket he'll move on to the next victim. He cares for them but not in the same sense as a parent for a child. Whether that would be enough to make katie stand up to the plate......well, I'd hope so but I can't even say for sure now if it would be.</p><p></p><p>So now back to normal. There will be no trips to dayton except holidays.........and to go to nichole's for dinner next week. She wants to show off her new apartment. Oh, and she got a job sitting for a little boy (18 mos) for 11 bucks an hour cash. Yet M and katie have *cough* "looked" for 3 wks and nothing. geez imagine,.</p><p></p><p>My gums aren't healing as fast as I'd like. I doubt he'll be doing the mold next week when I go in. I've lost at least 35 plus pounds, even though I do my best to eat. Not having teeth doesn't bother me anymore. Odd how quickly you can grow used to something. lol I mean the appearance.....the eating thing is frustrating. <img src="/community/styles/default/xenforo/smilies/tongue.png" class="smilie" loading="lazy" alt=":tongue:" title="tongue :tongue:" data-shortname=":tongue:" /></p><p></p><p>But now I can study in peace. I'm going to give myself a few wks before scheduling the exam because sometimes they have a spot open right away and I don't have the money to take the thing twice. Then if they don't have a spot open right away just gives me that much more time to study.</p><p></p><p>Of course this is after washing every dish in the house in the morning. I just didn't have the energy after they left for washing dishes.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Hound dog, post: 389340, member: 84"] I dunno Susie, katie would be terrified over the kids in foster care (M grew up as a foster kid and told her many horror stories, true or not) she'd probably give them the family names. If not, I know Kayla and Alex would as the thought of going with strangers would scare them to death. husband just got back. And my brain has had a chance to recoop after this afternoons chaos. Katie attempted a few guilt trips which I promptly nipped in the bud. She started in about how she doesn't know what to do about the kids and school since she'll keep calling the nearby shelters for openings........and she feels so bad about yanking them in and out.......This was supposed to make Nana feel like an ogre for sending them to dayon. Instead.........I told her to svck it up. Kayla will be held back this year (2nd time) due to all the moving around. She might as well face the fact and stop worrying about it. Told her she has no choice so get over it. Alex doesn't matter as he's Special Education and does his own program anyway. Then she said she felt terrible because her mom called her last night and reamed her a new one over not having jobs and a place to live yet. Then evidently Kayla started in on both her parents as it's all their fault they have to go back to the shelter. Katie said it hurt so much to hear her say that. I said then you tell her to make sure she graduates, goes to college, then gets married, then has children........so she doesn't wind up in the same position as an adult. Oh, and katie was sooooo worried about the wk evaluation thing. I told her the only reason they'd boot them out is if they don't work the program. In other words, calling me with some lame excuse of why you got booted is not going to make me come running. Katie shut up. That was the last attempt at a guilt trip. Then M started in how he was gonna get a job and ask for day passes to rent motel rooms for a night or two......take the kids to Mc Donalds when the shelter didn't make what they wanted to eat.....yadda yadda..........I'd had it up to here by then *hand held above head* And shot back with Gee, don't you think you might want to save the money to put a roof over their head first? Idiot.:angry: That wasn't enough. Then once kayla starts getting really upset about going (she's scared to death) M tells her to not worry he didn't take her out of harms way in St Louis to put her back into it again. Excuse me?? I had to seriously bite my tongue on that one. I did so only because the grands would hear what I had to say and it would not have been put tactfully. It's because of him that they're sitting in dayton tonight. Omg I wanted to knock the snot right out of him. Oh, and Alex was nearly hysteric by noon today. His teacher called from the school. To help him calm down she bought pizza for the two of them to eat lunch together. She'd called because she'd given Alex her phone number and address so he could keep in contact and she wanted to make sure it was ok with katie. She also sent home with him tons of school supplies, the rest of the pizza, candy, a book given to him by his classmates as a goodbye present all signed by them. She adores Alex and says he's been an utter joy to have in class and that she's going to miss him terribly. Mean of me.........but I saw that it hurt katie to be taking him away from that, and I thought let's keep piling it on until she gets it. At the shelter no one bothered to thank husband for the ride except kayla.........who also gave him a hug and a kiss for each of us and whispered in his ear she knew it wasn't our fault. That little girl has seen and lived through too much already. Most of katie's problem is she wants to hide instead of work for the change. She wants someone to fix it for her. She wants someone to tell her what to do, when to do it, and how to do it. She has to learn to stand up for herself and those kids. She has to learn that grownups have to work, and work hard, for what they want and need in life. Katie has got to get so furious with M that she can find the strength to throw off the victim mentality forever. I hope the shelter runs them ragged, hounds them relentlessly. Awful........but probably the only way they're going to open the girls eyes to reality. There are moments when I see the fire in her eyes..........then she goes back to her comfort zone and it goes out again. *sigh* I don't feel the least bit guilty. My heart aches for the grands, they sure got the bums rush when it came to parents......and they've already had it so hard it's so unfair to them. If kayla is held back it will be the 2nd time due to all the moves. Poor Alex is regressing terribly because he has to keep adjusting to new environments/teachers ect and he just does not do that well. Poor lil guy absolutely loved it at this school and was the 1st time she didn't have to fight him to go. And Evan.......... I taught him to count to 3 today using 3 pennies. (an effort to keep him from destroying the house and driving me nuts) The boy is 5 yrs old. He just today learned to count to 3. He was soaking up the attention like a sponge. And he likes Nana attention because I don't treat him like a baby. Makes me sad. I'll take them on if I have no choice. But I won't be over eager as it would mean still being in constant contact with M. ugh (shoot me now) Although I think if they lost custody and had no hopes of getting them back he'd vanish out of the picture. They're his meal ticket, if not a meal ticket he'll move on to the next victim. He cares for them but not in the same sense as a parent for a child. Whether that would be enough to make katie stand up to the plate......well, I'd hope so but I can't even say for sure now if it would be. So now back to normal. There will be no trips to dayton except holidays.........and to go to nichole's for dinner next week. She wants to show off her new apartment. Oh, and she got a job sitting for a little boy (18 mos) for 11 bucks an hour cash. Yet M and katie have *cough* "looked" for 3 wks and nothing. geez imagine,. My gums aren't healing as fast as I'd like. I doubt he'll be doing the mold next week when I go in. I've lost at least 35 plus pounds, even though I do my best to eat. Not having teeth doesn't bother me anymore. Odd how quickly you can grow used to something. lol I mean the appearance.....the eating thing is frustrating. :raspberry-tounge: But now I can study in peace. I'm going to give myself a few wks before scheduling the exam because sometimes they have a spot open right away and I don't have the money to take the thing twice. Then if they don't have a spot open right away just gives me that much more time to study. Of course this is after washing every dish in the house in the morning. I just didn't have the energy after they left for washing dishes. [/QUOTE]
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