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<blockquote data-quote="susiestar" data-source="post: 389397" data-attributes="member: 1233"><p>Janet, in OH they don't even have to hide that the guy lives there. When we first moved to Cincy I let husband pick the apartment in the hopes that if he picked the place it would be someplace he would actually like. He managed to rent a place right above a drug dealer who abused his girlfriend's kids. NOTHING got the police involved or even CPS involved. NOTHING.</p><p> </p><p>I reported them once for welfare abuse because he was the father of 2 of the kids but she was living with him and getting ALL the various programs benefits for single parents. They told me it did not matter if he lived there as long as they were not married. Even if they had been married and then divorced they could still live together as 2 separate households and she could get all the aid programs. Later when I worked up toward where Lisa lives I knew many women with similar situations. They lived with the father of their kids but didn't marry or try to claim common law marriage because they could get benefits as long as they were single. It would simply take too much work for the social workers there to try to figure out if someone was living with the father of her kids. So they don't even ASK. My aunt tells me it is the same where she lives. Her granddau just got married against the wishes of his family. His family wanted them to just live together and have kids so that they could work under the table and claim benefits. No way will her granddau have any part of fraud, and she clearly told the guy that if they are having kids at any point they will be married or he can just zip it up and go find someone else. (Aunt is honorary title, my mom's bff).</p><p> </p><p>Seems to me that if katie couldn't bring herself to totally ditch M, maybe she could divorce him, get housing etc... and then kick him out later. I doubt she would have the spine for even that little step though.</p><p> </p><p>Lisa, I really hope that the shelter in Dayton is horrible enough that katie snaps out of it and gets her act together. Or that she at least is in one place long enough for CPS to get involved. They don't neccessarily have to remove the kids, they could just put her on a plan of supervision to make sure she is taking care of the kids.</p><p> </p><p>in my opinion both katie and M should be SHOT. Evan learned to count to 3 today?? At FIVE years old? His parents have been cooped up in motel rooms with him for YEARS and never even bothered to do THAT with him? That alone should have the kids removed because they don't even have a clue as to how to TRY to be babysitters, much less parents. </p><p> </p><p>I am glad the schoolpeople really liked them. It bodes well for how they will be received in other schools. Is there a reason that kayla is not in Special Education classes? If nothing else the moving around would have her behind enough to need services. </p><p> </p><p>Take your time studying for the test. Don't rush it before you are ready. I hope you are able to get the molds done and the dentures made fairly soon. I am sorry that you haven't been able to eat enough that you have lost so much weight. You are a great warrior mom and gma. I know it was hard to make the grands leave but if you hadn't there is not even a teensy chance that katie would ever even try to make a life for them. </p><p> </p><p>(((((hugs)))))</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="susiestar, post: 389397, member: 1233"] Janet, in OH they don't even have to hide that the guy lives there. When we first moved to Cincy I let husband pick the apartment in the hopes that if he picked the place it would be someplace he would actually like. He managed to rent a place right above a drug dealer who abused his girlfriend's kids. NOTHING got the police involved or even CPS involved. NOTHING. I reported them once for welfare abuse because he was the father of 2 of the kids but she was living with him and getting ALL the various programs benefits for single parents. They told me it did not matter if he lived there as long as they were not married. Even if they had been married and then divorced they could still live together as 2 separate households and she could get all the aid programs. Later when I worked up toward where Lisa lives I knew many women with similar situations. They lived with the father of their kids but didn't marry or try to claim common law marriage because they could get benefits as long as they were single. It would simply take too much work for the social workers there to try to figure out if someone was living with the father of her kids. So they don't even ASK. My aunt tells me it is the same where she lives. Her granddau just got married against the wishes of his family. His family wanted them to just live together and have kids so that they could work under the table and claim benefits. No way will her granddau have any part of fraud, and she clearly told the guy that if they are having kids at any point they will be married or he can just zip it up and go find someone else. (Aunt is honorary title, my mom's bff). Seems to me that if katie couldn't bring herself to totally ditch M, maybe she could divorce him, get housing etc... and then kick him out later. I doubt she would have the spine for even that little step though. Lisa, I really hope that the shelter in Dayton is horrible enough that katie snaps out of it and gets her act together. Or that she at least is in one place long enough for CPS to get involved. They don't neccessarily have to remove the kids, they could just put her on a plan of supervision to make sure she is taking care of the kids. in my opinion both katie and M should be SHOT. Evan learned to count to 3 today?? At FIVE years old? His parents have been cooped up in motel rooms with him for YEARS and never even bothered to do THAT with him? That alone should have the kids removed because they don't even have a clue as to how to TRY to be babysitters, much less parents. I am glad the schoolpeople really liked them. It bodes well for how they will be received in other schools. Is there a reason that kayla is not in Special Education classes? If nothing else the moving around would have her behind enough to need services. Take your time studying for the test. Don't rush it before you are ready. I hope you are able to get the molds done and the dentures made fairly soon. I am sorry that you haven't been able to eat enough that you have lost so much weight. You are a great warrior mom and gma. I know it was hard to make the grands leave but if you hadn't there is not even a teensy chance that katie would ever even try to make a life for them. (((((hugs))))) [/QUOTE]
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