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<blockquote data-quote="confuzzled" data-source="post: 494670" data-attributes="member: 8831"><p>i am SO sorry in advance--i feel like i write a novel when i post here...brevity is not my strong suit!</p><p></p><p>but as usual, not sure exactly what i'm seeing with difficult child 2, but its not good.</p><p></p><p>we increased focalin before xmas. we started the slow wean of abilify after xmas--only a 5mg decrease.</p><p></p><p>::SIGH::</p><p></p><p>school just called. they want a meeting on friday. apparently, mine had a rough week before xmas. teachers report her behavior/odd-ish behavior starting that week. i'm just finding that out today...but i wasnt overly alarmed by that fact....lots of kids have overload the week before a holiday, and they were pretty off the typical schedule with parties and assemblies.</p><p></p><p>i was actually too embarrassed to post this (why, I don't know, i know you've heard it all)...but our home xmas was a Disaster. she apparently thought it was a *plan* to wake up and sneak around and open all her gifts *before* the rest of us got up. her explanaton was that she couldnt wait, and thought she'd get in trouble for waking us up. it resulted it screaming/punishing/etc and the natural consequence of not getting her "big gift"-a laptop. it was a miserable day--i would have chalked it up to excitement/impulse control, except for the sneakiness--and the fact she's 12, not 3...but obviously there was a self serving component within her control.</p><p></p><p>so vacation kind of wasnt that great here. she was pretty off routine, we ate horribly, and we did much of nothing...but the focalin increase seemed to give her amazing concentration...she finished a bunch of craft projects (could have been just out of boredom thanks to total computer punishment). i chalked her mild irritability up to all that and not managing her rebound as well as i could. she was slightly louder and hyped up over the break too....one day i did give her a 5mg booster dose since she was on my last nerve, but again, i kind of figured it was the combo of break/impulsivity/lack of routine.</p><p></p><p>::SIGH::</p><p></p><p>so she goes back to school yesterday.</p><p></p><p>and is assigned the literal mother of all projects....this complex "research" thesis paper...and had to pick from goofy topics she (nor i) know nothing about. various deadlines, index cards, outlines, bibliographies, the works (and this odd scavenger hunt tossed in for who knows why--presumably to teach library skills, of which no one in her class has set foot in, ever).</p><p></p><p>this is spED. its the highest level, meant for kids who are pretty acadamically on target, but need small group placement for various reasons.</p><p></p><p>she has an IEP. she has documented dysgraphia and output issues. is her IEP being followed/working for her--probably not so much. modification is not this teachers strong suit--her belief is that in her class, you need to *DO THE WORK* :headdesk:. until now, i was thrilled with the level of homework--a very reasonable 10 math problems/day, one or two typical type projects, a current event assignment....so she hasnt really had to "buckle down" and do work.</p><p></p><p>sooooooooooooooooooooooooooooo....</p><p>(i probably dont need to type this part, and i KNEW it was coming, lol)</p><p></p><p>meltdown in class today.</p><p></p><p>in my opinion, *COMPLETELY* anxiety related--not a doubt in my mind she is overwhelmed with the mere thought of the assignment, let alone doing it.</p><p></p><p>she wanted to change her topic to something she knows well, but not on the list. either she obsessed over it all day and realized better the devil you know, *or* the teacher said something like "you should have some interest in your topic"....blam!</p><p></p><p>so they want to meet with me to figure out how t o "manage her" better. the guidance counselor SPECIFICALLY mentioned "homeschool"--i'm giving the benefit of the doubt that it was a slip of the tongue, because umm. not remotely on the table. i've been looking for private options for her and cant seem to find anything close enough that would come close to being appropriate...my choices are limited to the extremely low functioning or the serious juvenile offenders. i think, for her, middle school is a particularly difficult route, and am slowly realizing she needs more targeted help, i just dont know exactly where to get it.</p><p></p><p>we had a therapist appointment this afternoon (which got canceled this very second, normally i'd be thrilled, but i kind of wanted to talk about it right.now!) and a psychiatrist appointment tomorrow, and then school meeting fri...i need some smart brains to give me a hand here....</p><p></p><p>so if you read this far, THANKS, lol!</p><p></p><p>i guess my questions are:</p><p></p><p>1. holiday related or medication related...i see a huge ramp up in anxiety...but i dont really, truly know what mania looks like in her....so i'm not sure if the focalin is causing mania-like behavior or not (its pretty much a miracle for focusing for her--she does appear to have true, stand alone adhd that has never "fallen away" with tx). or do i consider getting her lamictal raised, if the anxiety is breaking through again? she had been managing decently (comparatively) until now.</p><p></p><p>2. is this a typical middle school assignment and how would you modify it?? it came home complete with rubric...honestly, its type of paper i did to graduate my senior year, not 7th grade.</p><p></p><p>3. now what?</p><p></p><p>:white flag:</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="confuzzled, post: 494670, member: 8831"] i am SO sorry in advance--i feel like i write a novel when i post here...brevity is not my strong suit! but as usual, not sure exactly what i'm seeing with difficult child 2, but its not good. we increased focalin before xmas. we started the slow wean of abilify after xmas--only a 5mg decrease. ::SIGH:: school just called. they want a meeting on friday. apparently, mine had a rough week before xmas. teachers report her behavior/odd-ish behavior starting that week. i'm just finding that out today...but i wasnt overly alarmed by that fact....lots of kids have overload the week before a holiday, and they were pretty off the typical schedule with parties and assemblies. i was actually too embarrassed to post this (why, I don't know, i know you've heard it all)...but our home xmas was a Disaster. she apparently thought it was a *plan* to wake up and sneak around and open all her gifts *before* the rest of us got up. her explanaton was that she couldnt wait, and thought she'd get in trouble for waking us up. it resulted it screaming/punishing/etc and the natural consequence of not getting her "big gift"-a laptop. it was a miserable day--i would have chalked it up to excitement/impulse control, except for the sneakiness--and the fact she's 12, not 3...but obviously there was a self serving component within her control. so vacation kind of wasnt that great here. she was pretty off routine, we ate horribly, and we did much of nothing...but the focalin increase seemed to give her amazing concentration...she finished a bunch of craft projects (could have been just out of boredom thanks to total computer punishment). i chalked her mild irritability up to all that and not managing her rebound as well as i could. she was slightly louder and hyped up over the break too....one day i did give her a 5mg booster dose since she was on my last nerve, but again, i kind of figured it was the combo of break/impulsivity/lack of routine. ::SIGH:: so she goes back to school yesterday. and is assigned the literal mother of all projects....this complex "research" thesis paper...and had to pick from goofy topics she (nor i) know nothing about. various deadlines, index cards, outlines, bibliographies, the works (and this odd scavenger hunt tossed in for who knows why--presumably to teach library skills, of which no one in her class has set foot in, ever). this is spED. its the highest level, meant for kids who are pretty acadamically on target, but need small group placement for various reasons. she has an IEP. she has documented dysgraphia and output issues. is her IEP being followed/working for her--probably not so much. modification is not this teachers strong suit--her belief is that in her class, you need to *DO THE WORK* :headdesk:. until now, i was thrilled with the level of homework--a very reasonable 10 math problems/day, one or two typical type projects, a current event assignment....so she hasnt really had to "buckle down" and do work. sooooooooooooooooooooooooooooo.... (i probably dont need to type this part, and i KNEW it was coming, lol) meltdown in class today. in my opinion, *COMPLETELY* anxiety related--not a doubt in my mind she is overwhelmed with the mere thought of the assignment, let alone doing it. she wanted to change her topic to something she knows well, but not on the list. either she obsessed over it all day and realized better the devil you know, *or* the teacher said something like "you should have some interest in your topic"....blam! so they want to meet with me to figure out how t o "manage her" better. the guidance counselor SPECIFICALLY mentioned "homeschool"--i'm giving the benefit of the doubt that it was a slip of the tongue, because umm. not remotely on the table. i've been looking for private options for her and cant seem to find anything close enough that would come close to being appropriate...my choices are limited to the extremely low functioning or the serious juvenile offenders. i think, for her, middle school is a particularly difficult route, and am slowly realizing she needs more targeted help, i just dont know exactly where to get it. we had a therapist appointment this afternoon (which got canceled this very second, normally i'd be thrilled, but i kind of wanted to talk about it right.now!) and a psychiatrist appointment tomorrow, and then school meeting fri...i need some smart brains to give me a hand here.... so if you read this far, THANKS, lol! i guess my questions are: 1. holiday related or medication related...i see a huge ramp up in anxiety...but i dont really, truly know what mania looks like in her....so i'm not sure if the focalin is causing mania-like behavior or not (its pretty much a miracle for focusing for her--she does appear to have true, stand alone adhd that has never "fallen away" with tx). or do i consider getting her lamictal raised, if the anxiety is breaking through again? she had been managing decently (comparatively) until now. 2. is this a typical middle school assignment and how would you modify it?? it came home complete with rubric...honestly, its type of paper i did to graduate my senior year, not 7th grade. 3. now what? :white flag: [/QUOTE]
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