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<blockquote data-quote="Childofmine" data-source="post: 680038" data-attributes="member: 17542"><p>Just catching up here and I think he is making tremendous progress! <strong>This</strong> is what progress looks like, not all pretty and perfect, but steps. Big steps, little steps...steps forward. He is starting to ***think*** and he is starting to grow up. This is exactly what you (and we) have all been hoping and praying for. </p><p></p><p></p><p></p><p>I think this is great stuff that you sent him. I remember Difficult Child doing this exact same stuff, calling and dumping it all on me again and again. I would get all twisted up and I can tell you I didn't handle it as well as you did here. I would get so frustrated and furious, not understanding why in the world he was still struggling with what I considered to be...very...basic...things. Anyway...our DCs grow up later than others...</p><p></p><p></p><p></p><p>And it probably will a couple or few more times. Just brace yourself for it. And think about it...that's what WE do too...one step forward and two back. That is being fully human. I think it's great that he is having to deal with the girlfriend and the friend because again, that's real life. People don't come through like you want them do, and then you have to figure out what YOU will do. It's such a learning process and he is learning. We never learn when things are hunky dory. We learn through discomfort. That is what he is doing. </p><p></p><p>Lil, keep on trying hard just to listen...and do nothing else. I know that is very hard to do when a simple $50 or $100 is the difference between living on the street and one more month...when someone is trying...and you will have to make those tough calls as they come. You and Jabber can decide when to help and when to wait. It's exhausting but this is a very crucial time for him in his own development...so go slow...and go carefully.</p><p></p><p>Breathe, like Pasa said. Take care of YOU so you can do this. </p><p></p><p>This is really great news. Hang in there!!!</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Childofmine, post: 680038, member: 17542"] Just catching up here and I think he is making tremendous progress! [B]This[/B] is what progress looks like, not all pretty and perfect, but steps. Big steps, little steps...steps forward. He is starting to ***think*** and he is starting to grow up. This is exactly what you (and we) have all been hoping and praying for. I think this is great stuff that you sent him. I remember Difficult Child doing this exact same stuff, calling and dumping it all on me again and again. I would get all twisted up and I can tell you I didn't handle it as well as you did here. I would get so frustrated and furious, not understanding why in the world he was still struggling with what I considered to be...very...basic...things. Anyway...our DCs grow up later than others... And it probably will a couple or few more times. Just brace yourself for it. And think about it...that's what WE do too...one step forward and two back. That is being fully human. I think it's great that he is having to deal with the girlfriend and the friend because again, that's real life. People don't come through like you want them do, and then you have to figure out what YOU will do. It's such a learning process and he is learning. We never learn when things are hunky dory. We learn through discomfort. That is what he is doing. Lil, keep on trying hard just to listen...and do nothing else. I know that is very hard to do when a simple $50 or $100 is the difference between living on the street and one more month...when someone is trying...and you will have to make those tough calls as they come. You and Jabber can decide when to help and when to wait. It's exhausting but this is a very crucial time for him in his own development...so go slow...and go carefully. Breathe, like Pasa said. Take care of YOU so you can do this. This is really great news. Hang in there!!! [/QUOTE]
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