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<blockquote data-quote="Mattsmom277" data-source="post: 338561" data-attributes="member: 4264"><p>Glad things went well today. Sounds a positive step forward and a chance for your difficult child to be "caught doing good". </p><p></p><p>My difficult child told me, when he switched literally overnight to a near typical teen (after near 10 years of brutal agony with him let me tell you) that he always took things out on me the worst, his thoughts, moods, rages, nasty words etc because he knew I had his back even if angry or hurt. He said he knew that in the end, when others might let him down, he knew I would not do so and therefore I was his safe person to take it all out on when he had to release it all or implode.</p><p></p><p>It didn't feel good at the time. I cried streams. I was off/on medication for my nerves. I nearly walked away, I was that defeated. </p><p></p><p>Then he told me this and has backed it all up by his continuing huge efforts to do well and his obvious desire over a extended time now, to make me proud of him. In hindsight, his abusive words and stuff towards me were a sign that under it all, I was his rock. I never could have felt that in the midst of it all. But looking back it makes perfect sense. Small consellation when you are deep in the thick of it, but perhaps a method of looking at it that at some moment when most needed, might keep you going. </p><p></p><p>Again, awesome events at court. Glad to hear something good happened. Soudns like difficult child (and you) could use something good.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Mattsmom277, post: 338561, member: 4264"] Glad things went well today. Sounds a positive step forward and a chance for your difficult child to be "caught doing good". My difficult child told me, when he switched literally overnight to a near typical teen (after near 10 years of brutal agony with him let me tell you) that he always took things out on me the worst, his thoughts, moods, rages, nasty words etc because he knew I had his back even if angry or hurt. He said he knew that in the end, when others might let him down, he knew I would not do so and therefore I was his safe person to take it all out on when he had to release it all or implode. It didn't feel good at the time. I cried streams. I was off/on medication for my nerves. I nearly walked away, I was that defeated. Then he told me this and has backed it all up by his continuing huge efforts to do well and his obvious desire over a extended time now, to make me proud of him. In hindsight, his abusive words and stuff towards me were a sign that under it all, I was his rock. I never could have felt that in the midst of it all. But looking back it makes perfect sense. Small consellation when you are deep in the thick of it, but perhaps a method of looking at it that at some moment when most needed, might keep you going. Again, awesome events at court. Glad to hear something good happened. Soudns like difficult child (and you) could use something good. [/QUOTE]
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