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<blockquote data-quote="Jena" data-source="post: 383431" data-attributes="member: 4514"><p>hi,</p><p> </p><p>first its going to be ok. it really is. it feels like right now life really sux bigtime and your just like why oh why did i bother ripping my heart out of my chest and sending this child away if he was going to return like this?</p><p> </p><p>what i've come to learn since placing my difficult child into the hospital very recently through the support groups they offer there. is that often when a child returns from any hospitalization they will once back in their environment try to return back to their old behaviors. hence a behavioral issue not a biochemical like we're used to handling. it sounds to me and i'm sooo not an expert that is what's going on by you now.</p><p> </p><p>is there any way for you to gain info. from the Residential Treatment Center (RTC) about what their routines were daily? when he'd eat, shower, etc. than sit down after getting that info and see if you can incorporate some of that into his daily routine at home and if need be post the schedule. sounds absurd i know. yet that's setting clear boundary levels. in any hospital or Residential Treatment Center (RTC) etc setting there are clear boundaries whereas at home for us our main focus let's face it cant' just be the kid. we either have other kids, gotta buy food,maybe work, do laundry. </p><p> </p><p>i was told even with my kids newest disorder eating disorder that once she returns she may very well revert back to her old behaviors. if i were you and i know it's hard i'd give those behaviors zero attention unless you feel that he will injure himself or someone else. he's been away from you a while right?? so he's probably craving attention as well however he can get it. he probably knows like my kids knows what lines send us as parents reeling and upsetting the "i'll kill myself" is def. one for me.</p><p> </p><p>just some thoughts i hope it helps.</p><p> </p><p>((hugs)) hang in there</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Jena, post: 383431, member: 4514"] hi, first its going to be ok. it really is. it feels like right now life really sux bigtime and your just like why oh why did i bother ripping my heart out of my chest and sending this child away if he was going to return like this? what i've come to learn since placing my difficult child into the hospital very recently through the support groups they offer there. is that often when a child returns from any hospitalization they will once back in their environment try to return back to their old behaviors. hence a behavioral issue not a biochemical like we're used to handling. it sounds to me and i'm sooo not an expert that is what's going on by you now. is there any way for you to gain info. from the Residential Treatment Center (RTC) about what their routines were daily? when he'd eat, shower, etc. than sit down after getting that info and see if you can incorporate some of that into his daily routine at home and if need be post the schedule. sounds absurd i know. yet that's setting clear boundary levels. in any hospital or Residential Treatment Center (RTC) etc setting there are clear boundaries whereas at home for us our main focus let's face it cant' just be the kid. we either have other kids, gotta buy food,maybe work, do laundry. i was told even with my kids newest disorder eating disorder that once she returns she may very well revert back to her old behaviors. if i were you and i know it's hard i'd give those behaviors zero attention unless you feel that he will injure himself or someone else. he's been away from you a while right?? so he's probably craving attention as well however he can get it. he probably knows like my kids knows what lines send us as parents reeling and upsetting the "i'll kill myself" is def. one for me. just some thoughts i hope it helps. ((hugs)) hang in there [/QUOTE]
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