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<blockquote data-quote="trinityroyal" data-source="post: 210272" data-attributes="member: 3907"><p>Two of the things that have worked pretty well for me with difficult child have been the "comparison" and the "do-over".</p><p></p><p>The comparison...</p><p>When difficult child behaves inappropriately, I imitate the behaviour and ask how he reacted to it. I then demonstrate a couple of alternative ways of handling whatever it is.</p><p></p><p>The do-over...</p><p>Just stop difficult child in his tracks. Tell him whatever he's just done is inappropriate, that he needs to rewind and start again.</p><p></p><p>Often the comparison and do-over happen together.</p><p></p><p>For example:</p><p>When difficult child's sister arrived at the Residential Treatment Center (RTC) for his celebration yesterday evening, he snarled "What took you so long?" So difficult child had a do-over. Sis went back out the door, difficult child was told to answer politely, greet her and show her in. Took 4 or 5 tries, but he did it.</p><p></p><p>The other thing I do is to try to keep all emotion out of it. difficult child's moods and emotions are flying all over the map. If I'm emotional too I just contribute to the chaos. Really, really hard, but it seems effective.</p><p></p><p>Toto, you're right though. Sometimes none of the tricks work, and you just have to ride it out.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="trinityroyal, post: 210272, member: 3907"] Two of the things that have worked pretty well for me with difficult child have been the "comparison" and the "do-over". The comparison... When difficult child behaves inappropriately, I imitate the behaviour and ask how he reacted to it. I then demonstrate a couple of alternative ways of handling whatever it is. The do-over... Just stop difficult child in his tracks. Tell him whatever he's just done is inappropriate, that he needs to rewind and start again. Often the comparison and do-over happen together. For example: When difficult child's sister arrived at the Residential Treatment Center (RTC) for his celebration yesterday evening, he snarled "What took you so long?" So difficult child had a do-over. Sis went back out the door, difficult child was told to answer politely, greet her and show her in. Took 4 or 5 tries, but he did it. The other thing I do is to try to keep all emotion out of it. difficult child's moods and emotions are flying all over the map. If I'm emotional too I just contribute to the chaos. Really, really hard, but it seems effective. Toto, you're right though. Sometimes none of the tricks work, and you just have to ride it out. [/QUOTE]
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