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<blockquote data-quote="gcvmom" data-source="post: 210299" data-attributes="member: 3444"><p>While I haven't discussed the specifics with a therapist or psychiatrist on managing the mood swings and meltdowns, I find I spend a lot of energy trying to clarify and diffuse when my difficult child is falling apart.</p><p> </p><p>difficult child 2 had a meltdown on Sunday night. It was triggered by his frustration over a question he asked that he did not feel was answered to his satisfaction. He was confused by the answer he was getting, and was not able to rephrase his question so that he could get to the answer he was looking for. So he kept repeating himself, getting more and more angry. And the people he was asking (husband and difficult child 1) added fuel to his fire by getting annoyed at his rigid questioning and responded by being rigid in their own responses. </p><p> </p><p>It took close to 45 minutes for him to stop screaming at them, crying, throwing things in the house (thank goodness it was just clean laundry) and throwing himself on the furniture and floor. All the while, I am trying to figure out what he really wants to know by asking him all sorts of questions, quietly of course, so that he knows that I care about helping him and that I'm not there to criticize or ridicule him. While I'm doing this, I'm trying to whisper/pantomime to husband that he's making things worse and trying to get him to help me diffuse the situation. He finally "got it" and totally changed his tone and attitude. I had to send difficult child 1 away from the area because he was just being a butthead and there was no way he was going to be part of the solution. </p><p> </p><p>This doesn't happen very often anymore, now that medications seem to be working better. But I think the day before difficult child 2 had skipped his afternoon dose of Seroquel XR and that destabilized him a bit.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="gcvmom, post: 210299, member: 3444"] While I haven't discussed the specifics with a therapist or psychiatrist on managing the mood swings and meltdowns, I find I spend a lot of energy trying to clarify and diffuse when my difficult child is falling apart. difficult child 2 had a meltdown on Sunday night. It was triggered by his frustration over a question he asked that he did not feel was answered to his satisfaction. He was confused by the answer he was getting, and was not able to rephrase his question so that he could get to the answer he was looking for. So he kept repeating himself, getting more and more angry. And the people he was asking (husband and difficult child 1) added fuel to his fire by getting annoyed at his rigid questioning and responded by being rigid in their own responses. It took close to 45 minutes for him to stop screaming at them, crying, throwing things in the house (thank goodness it was just clean laundry) and throwing himself on the furniture and floor. All the while, I am trying to figure out what he really wants to know by asking him all sorts of questions, quietly of course, so that he knows that I care about helping him and that I'm not there to criticize or ridicule him. While I'm doing this, I'm trying to whisper/pantomime to husband that he's making things worse and trying to get him to help me diffuse the situation. He finally "got it" and totally changed his tone and attitude. I had to send difficult child 1 away from the area because he was just being a butthead and there was no way he was going to be part of the solution. This doesn't happen very often anymore, now that medications seem to be working better. But I think the day before difficult child 2 had skipped his afternoon dose of Seroquel XR and that destabilized him a bit. [/QUOTE]
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