Fran
Former desparate mom
I'm sorry for the disappointment.
What a horrid situation.
You have every right to your feelings but take a breath and think things through.
Your son has got to step up and his girlfriend has to step up. They have to make a decision they can live with. In the end the mother will have the final say.
You, had your turn to make that choice and don't get a vote this time. It's tough to see that when they are 18 and a difficult child.
Your son may or may not be in this girl's life in the future. Your son will move on and get a life.
I doubt this girl will ever forget this catastrophe that they brought on themselves by not starting because a month earlier.
This isn't yours. The families are collateral damage. Try to put the focus on something besides your shock and disappointment.
When they say it's "my life" they don't see all of us as collateral damage and how we hurt for the choices they make over and over.
I don't see your son pitching in if you chose to raise the baby. I don't see it much with an 18 yr old easy child let alone a difficult child. It's a big step for you. In the end it will be the mother who will decide but it sure hurts so many. Make your offers known directly to the girlfriend. She should hear your offer of adoption from your lips if that is the way you want to go.
What a horrid situation.
You have every right to your feelings but take a breath and think things through.
Your son has got to step up and his girlfriend has to step up. They have to make a decision they can live with. In the end the mother will have the final say.
You, had your turn to make that choice and don't get a vote this time. It's tough to see that when they are 18 and a difficult child.
Your son may or may not be in this girl's life in the future. Your son will move on and get a life.
I doubt this girl will ever forget this catastrophe that they brought on themselves by not starting because a month earlier.
This isn't yours. The families are collateral damage. Try to put the focus on something besides your shock and disappointment.
When they say it's "my life" they don't see all of us as collateral damage and how we hurt for the choices they make over and over.
I don't see your son pitching in if you chose to raise the baby. I don't see it much with an 18 yr old easy child let alone a difficult child. It's a big step for you. In the end it will be the mother who will decide but it sure hurts so many. Make your offers known directly to the girlfriend. She should hear your offer of adoption from your lips if that is the way you want to go.