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<blockquote data-quote="meowbunny" data-source="post: 78734" data-attributes="member: 3626"><p>I know some here totally disagree, but I'm a firm believer in calling the police if my daughter gets violent. I put up with bruises and other myriad injuries for many years. My therapist asked me why? Would I tolerate this from anyone else? Um, no. So, he helped me implement a plan of what to do. </p><p></p><p>First, he helped me see where I was escalating things and helped me stop doing that. Next, he made an appointment with the police department to discuss the problems, including the fact that my goal was not to have my daughter arrested but to have her regain control. I was fortunate that I had a very good police department that was willing to work with me. They put the relevant data in their computer and when I had to call the police, the officers were aware of what was going on. However, I was told that if my daughter was still violent after age 16, they would in fact arrest her. Oddly, her violence was extremely minimal after age 16 and there have been no violent incidents in the past two years.</p><p></p><p>So, I would recommend talking to an officer at your local station and see how they handle situations like this. They may have the policy of a warning the first time, a drive to the station the second and arrest the third. They may just leave it to the officer's discretion. </p><p></p><p>If I were you, I would make the decision of whether to call the police from what I find out from the department and what outcome I was willing to accept. For me, it had reached the point that I was willing for them to arrest her if necessary. It took me a long time, but I did finally reach the conclusion that violence was not tolerable.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="meowbunny, post: 78734, member: 3626"] I know some here totally disagree, but I'm a firm believer in calling the police if my daughter gets violent. I put up with bruises and other myriad injuries for many years. My therapist asked me why? Would I tolerate this from anyone else? Um, no. So, he helped me implement a plan of what to do. First, he helped me see where I was escalating things and helped me stop doing that. Next, he made an appointment with the police department to discuss the problems, including the fact that my goal was not to have my daughter arrested but to have her regain control. I was fortunate that I had a very good police department that was willing to work with me. They put the relevant data in their computer and when I had to call the police, the officers were aware of what was going on. However, I was told that if my daughter was still violent after age 16, they would in fact arrest her. Oddly, her violence was extremely minimal after age 16 and there have been no violent incidents in the past two years. So, I would recommend talking to an officer at your local station and see how they handle situations like this. They may have the policy of a warning the first time, a drive to the station the second and arrest the third. They may just leave it to the officer's discretion. If I were you, I would make the decision of whether to call the police from what I find out from the department and what outcome I was willing to accept. For me, it had reached the point that I was willing for them to arrest her if necessary. It took me a long time, but I did finally reach the conclusion that violence was not tolerable. [/QUOTE]
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