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<blockquote data-quote="neednewtechnique" data-source="post: 78771" data-attributes="member: 3527"><p>A few things come to my mind when I read your post about your violent child. I agree that plain old ADHD would not cause enough to make a violent child. I would say that there is something else going on, so make sure you make that well known at the appointment on the 8th. </p><p></p><p>When our difficult child moved in with us, she was agressive, but not violent. Then things started to escalate and she had a few occasions when she did become violent. As soon as the first incident occurred and I realized that I absolutely could not fight her off of me alone, I placed a call to her counselor. I don't know if this would be an option for you, but our counselor set up an emergency meeting with us and a few of the crisis intervention workers and they did a coaching session with us, teaching us ways to restrain our difficult child without hurting her, this way she could be kept in our care until the crisis team could arrive. Our intervention plan was made with the help of these crisis workers, the therapist, and the police dept. The agreement we made was that we would try these methods of restraint and place an immediate call to crisis. If we could successfully restrain her until they arrived, they would handle it from there. The stipulations were that #1, if I was there alone with her and she became violent, call the police and they would come restrain her or hold her until crisis could arrive. #2, if she got into any physical altercation with the children (3 years old and 5 years old) to call the police no matter what. And, #3, if my husband and I together were unable to restrain her to call the police.</p><p></p><p>The police department agreed that they would assist with coming to our house to restrain her if necessary. However, they were very clear that if she in any way assaulted an officer, she WOULD be arrested and charged accordingly. They also made it very clear that if any violent acts on her part resulted in serious injury, they would also arrest her. Per the arrangement we made and agreed to with them, If she would have to be arrested, she would be released only to the care of a crisis worker who would be ordered to evaluate her and transport her immediately to the nearest available psychiatric hospital for consideration. </p><p></p><p>Thankfully, involving her in the development of this plan, she was able to talk to the crisis workers and the police, and the whole idea scared her so much that we have never even once had to call the police OR the crisis intervention people. </p><p></p><p>I just thought I would share our plan, hopefully if nothing else, it might at least spike some ideas for you to make your own plan. I know it is the worst feeling in the world to consider calling the police on your own child, but trust me, if you use it as a last resort, it is definitely better than someone getting hurt.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="neednewtechnique, post: 78771, member: 3527"] A few things come to my mind when I read your post about your violent child. I agree that plain old ADHD would not cause enough to make a violent child. I would say that there is something else going on, so make sure you make that well known at the appointment on the 8th. When our difficult child moved in with us, she was agressive, but not violent. Then things started to escalate and she had a few occasions when she did become violent. As soon as the first incident occurred and I realized that I absolutely could not fight her off of me alone, I placed a call to her counselor. I don't know if this would be an option for you, but our counselor set up an emergency meeting with us and a few of the crisis intervention workers and they did a coaching session with us, teaching us ways to restrain our difficult child without hurting her, this way she could be kept in our care until the crisis team could arrive. Our intervention plan was made with the help of these crisis workers, the therapist, and the police dept. The agreement we made was that we would try these methods of restraint and place an immediate call to crisis. If we could successfully restrain her until they arrived, they would handle it from there. The stipulations were that #1, if I was there alone with her and she became violent, call the police and they would come restrain her or hold her until crisis could arrive. #2, if she got into any physical altercation with the children (3 years old and 5 years old) to call the police no matter what. And, #3, if my husband and I together were unable to restrain her to call the police. The police department agreed that they would assist with coming to our house to restrain her if necessary. However, they were very clear that if she in any way assaulted an officer, she WOULD be arrested and charged accordingly. They also made it very clear that if any violent acts on her part resulted in serious injury, they would also arrest her. Per the arrangement we made and agreed to with them, If she would have to be arrested, she would be released only to the care of a crisis worker who would be ordered to evaluate her and transport her immediately to the nearest available psychiatric hospital for consideration. Thankfully, involving her in the development of this plan, she was able to talk to the crisis workers and the police, and the whole idea scared her so much that we have never even once had to call the police OR the crisis intervention people. I just thought I would share our plan, hopefully if nothing else, it might at least spike some ideas for you to make your own plan. I know it is the worst feeling in the world to consider calling the police on your own child, but trust me, if you use it as a last resort, it is definitely better than someone getting hurt. [/QUOTE]
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